How long do I hold out?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-19-2007
How long do I hold out?
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Mon, 10-22-2007 - 8:15pm

Hi everyone.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-15-2007
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 8:45pm

I would suggest taking a step back from the relationship emotionally. Easier said, than done. But he seems like a catch if you can just get your heart safe.

Heartache sounds like an almost definite. I am in a relationship that I know will end in heartache, but I want what we can have. Better to have loved and lost than to neither loved at all, sorta thing. If that is how you feel then go for it, if the heartache sounds to painful, run.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-19-2007
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 9:52pm

Hi marievc,


I so hear you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-15-2007
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 10:21pm

Yes exactly. He is just so sweet and you let the walls down a little and then you get scared and put them back up, you think even higher then before and then he says the sweetest things on the earth and you just have to melt.

Sorry for the run-on sentence.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2006
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 11:01pm

You are going to have to be very firm with yourself about what you want and then be very firm with him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-19-2007
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 11:17pm

Yes, yes, yes...to everything you both said.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
Tue, 10-23-2007 - 1:13pm
He is being honest with you so you should be honest with yourself.
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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
Tue, 10-23-2007 - 2:29pm
Yes, better to have loved and lost
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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-15-2007
Tue, 10-23-2007 - 3:31pm
If bad means in any way dangerous. Emotionally or physically, then of course head it off. But if your heart leads to a guy that you know will end in an heartache, is it better to have the experience of this relationship or end it before it gets started. Honestly, I believe that if your heart can handle the pain, then go for. Just jump.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2006
Tue, 10-23-2007 - 4:51pm
I dont know why you are torturing yourself.