How long do you wait for a call?
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How long do you wait for a call?
| Mon, 12-13-2004 - 3:16pm |
I had a great date with great guy on Saturday night. He dropped me off at my place around midnight (well, 12:30 by the time the kissing part was done). We both said we had a great time and that we would have to do it again.
So how long do I wait? Understand that I am not nervous about him not calling yet - I really didn't expect a call yesterday. I figure it was a first date and he would play it cool and wait a couple days before calling. That and I just have this feeling that he WILL call. But men out here and anyone with input - how long should I expect to wait and when SHOULD I get concerned (i.e. bummed) if he doesn't call me?

bellina here, If you're stating that your date ended in pleasant kisses and felt mutual attractions,then I wouldn't fret.If he doesn't call in 3-5 days,perhaps he's been busy.Depending on his ttype work schedules,or afraid of responding to swiftly,not ready
for a serious relationship,just casual.This will be determined if he doesn't respond to
a second or third encounter within a week even.It all depends on what is going on in his life,whether it's business related,or seeing other gals..Time will determine this,if you get more dates..Best wishes with this fellow..Bellina
vexer hw...
It's just Pianoguy's opinion....but if you experienced 30 minutes of "lip lock" with your b/f early Sunday...you'll probably receive his phone call tonight or Wednesday!
A few days away usually gives most men enough time to think about where to take you on Date #2! So just R-E-L-A-X! If a week or more goes by without any communication, that's when to start worrying!
Also keep in mind that during the holiday season...many men are often out in the shopping malls searching for that PERFECT GIFT to bestow on their favorite lady on Christmas Eve!
:)
Pianoguy
Thanks bellina and pianoguy! I just tend to get worried and read too much into it. It is a busy time of year and I know that. I am just so anxious for him to call! :-) I did get a quick email from him last night and although he didn't specifically mention getting together again, he said he would talk to me later.
And PG - I don't expect a gift at all. We have been out on one official date and spent one other night dancing and flirting. I guess anymore, I don't set my expectations very high so if something bad happens, I am not disappointed! Now there is pessimism for you, isn't it? But also if something good happens, I am plesantly surprised and very happy.
But the advice from both of you made me take a deep breath and just relax. It sure was great lip-lock. Just hoping for some more!
vexer hw...
Pianoguy...like a lot of his 'fellow brothers'...has often shopped around for a nice little holiday surprise for the lady he likes to be with. This doesn't necessarily mean she'll get keys to a mercedes or an expensive Cartier diamond! But I guess when we spend a portion of our holidays with women who are...err...GREAT KISSERS LIKE YOURSELF...it's fun to wrap up a little something! We do this for no other reason than to watch the expression on your face when you open up our package(s)!
I honestly like your attitude about expectations, vexer. It reminds me of a song that Mel Brooks wrote for his movie: THE 12 CHAIRS. The plot of the film wasn't sensational, but the song Mel wrote called: "Hope for the Best" could apply to almost any dating situation! Do you mind if I quote a line or two?
"Hope for the best...expect the worst...some drink champagne...some die of thirst...no way of knowing...how things are going...HOPE FOR THE BEST---EXPECT THE WORST!"
"Hope for the best...expect the worst...you could be Tolstoy...or Fannie Hurst...there are no answers...you take your chances...HOPE FOR THE BEST---EXPECT THE WORST"
Hope the 2 of you have a happy holiday!!!
Pianoguy
Bellina sends Greetings! Thank you luv for appreciating my advice to someone awaiting a possible holiday sweetheart,you and he could be wonderful gifts to one another!To me one of the best things in a romantic relationship are lots of wonderful baci de amore,loving kisses as the Italians say!If you're feeling playful and are a chocolate lover,try Baci
chocolates(each individual candy is wrapped with a different romantic proverb,saying on the art of kissing!Perugina is the company who makes these scrumptuous hazelnut filled chocolates.If you're together offer him one of these for dessert..and flavored coffees or apperitifs(some chambord) ooh la la!.Tell him to read the inside message,and use your imaginations...kisses will be sweeter,in more ways tthan one!Guess I'm a bloody romantic,I did this in the past,and got wonderful returned affections from my fellow.Oh and pianoguy has the right sentiments in that with such wonderful kisses,he maybe conttemplating a little token,for holiday times!Best wishes and enjoy the Baci chocolates if your fellow doesn't.Tis the season to be jolly,now find someone sweet and some misteltoe too! Bellina