How long does it take? Its so hard to do

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Registered: 05-29-2004
How long does it take? Its so hard to do
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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 8:52pm
Im trying to get over my x. We were together for 7 months, then he dumped me. He seen me with my best friend who is a guy, and he assumed that i was seeing him on the side, being the reason he dumped me. The x called me on my cell, but i never returned his call, because i dont want to be drilled with questions. Probably my fault? My x has wanted to meet him, but my best friend doesnt like him. They have never met. He doesnt call or try to make any contact with me at all. I see him, but he doesnt even bother to look at me or acknowledge my existence. We been apart for a little over 3 months now. Im trying to keep myself busy, but i cant stop thinking about him no matter what i do. I'll have a dream about him,and all my feelings just resurface. You cant stop the dreams from coming. I miss him alot. Im trying to figure how long it would take to get over him? Aslong as i see him, the feelings resurface, no matter how hard i try not to show my pain, it still hurts. I was with him, and i loved him to death. He was so different from the other guys i've dated. He had all the physical qualites any women would want in a man, and he was just an awesome guy.The sex was awesome, and he always pleased me sexually, making sure i got off ,before anything else every single time! He works with kids teaching them how to play sports, other than his other job. He treated me so well. He feels i cheated on him, and i actually didnt. Me not returning his call probably proved the point. I've taken him for granted. We've fought before, and each time, i came crawling back to him, because it was my fault. This is the longest time, and i dont know what to say to him.Im tired of apologizing. He is a MAN, and not a boy like the other guys i've dated. For him to just drop what we had, and walk away amazes me. He shows no feelings, or pain. He just shows happiness all the time. Our break up doesnt phaze him a bit, like nothing does anyways. I just miss him so much,and i want him back.
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Registered: 05-26-2004
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 12:57pm
If you did nothing wrong, then you need to focus on that.
Lilypie Baby Days

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 1:32pm
I agree with wendy...do you really want someone who doesn't trust you? And worse, when he suspected something...he just ASSumed w/o discussing it w/you? That is extremely poor communication skills. No trust, no communication...what kind of r/ship do you have?

As a side note, I have to wonder how your "best friend" never met your bf in 7 months of dating? That seems odd to me. Surely, there were events (birthday parties, etc) that both would be attending? Its good practise to introduce your friendships into your r/ship so that you are "integrating" your bf into your life...not starting a completely different seperate one. It also helps with jealousy and insecurity.

Get over him and start fresh :)