How long should I wait
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| Tue, 02-20-2007 - 8:53pm |
After trading emails and phone conversations I met what I thought was a great guy last week, we met for drinks and the conversations were very comfortable and flowed so easily. We really seemed to click and now I think I made a really bad decision to go back to his place for another "drink". We talked when I got home that night and he said he would call the next day. Well, he did not call the next day and instead sent an email apologizing for not calling as he picked his kids up that night and fell asleep with them. He said he would have his kids for a few days and suggested we get together for a rendezvous after he dropped his kids off. It has been a couple of days and no word. I am guessing I will not hear from him again, but am hopeful nonetheless. Should I call him, send an email, or just let it go?
Thanks for any advice you can give me.
S

Don't be embarrassed, we've all been there. You chose to have sex with him, there's nothing wrong with that. However now it seems that he's ghosted. He said he would call you to get together and he hasn't so either way, he hasn't kept his word. Now it's up to you. If you want to pursue him, do so but I wouldn't send him more than one email. If he doesn't respond, then walk away. This might have been a case where he got the sex and just wasn't interested in more. Sorry.
Just realize that you're not an awful person for choosing to have sex, you made an adult decision. All you can do is learn from it for the next time.
Hope this helps. Feel free to come back and let us know how things work out.
Thanks for the advice, I think I will send a quick email but am sure he has ghosted as you said. As for the bad decision to have sex with him, I just need to use it as a learning experience. Thanks again and I will let you know if I do hear from him.