how long should I wait?
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how long should I wait?
| Fri, 09-29-2006 - 7:18pm |
Ok, I don't want to give too many details but if you ask a guy out and there is a misunderstanding about who was going to call (long story) how long should you wait for him to reschedule? He apologized and seemed pretty sincere that he didn't mean to blow me off, but he didn't reschedule an exact date...it was kinda vague.what do you think???am I being too impatient?please help, it's driving me crazy!

I wouldn't "wait" at all...I would assume that he's not all that interested until he calls and shows you otherwise. But in my experience, a guy who's truly interested either reschedules on the spot, or within a couple days, max.
Sheri
Thanks for the replies! I agree with everyone, really, I do. It's just that I feel like maybe it's partly my fault that he was vague. I don't know if maybe I came across as too vague with him and he thinks I'm blowing him off. Because the communication was through text message, I think I may have missed some important info. I know texting is stupid for this very reason-you can misunderstand people-so that's why I was trying to arrange to meet up instead. I was so proud of myself for asking him to hang out and that he said yes, that it never occured to me that it'd be easier to just call him and arrange the meeting instead of through texting! Don't laugh, I'm serious! sigh. I'm an idiot apparently! I've just never asked a guy out, and I hardly text, so I don't know the etiquette for it really. Anyways, things were going ok, we had agreed on an activity and a day...and he said, alright than, I'll talk to you (night before said meeting time or day of) and he left it with a smiley. I took that as he would call ME, but that's kinda old fashioned thinking considering I did ask him out and I was the one who initiated it. I just assumed he'd call me, but maybe he was waiting for me???? Another thing is, when he said the thing about I'll talk to you, I didn't respond because I had already agreed to the day and activity and didn't want to keep texting-I thought I was being annoying at this point. I know, stupid, I should have said something like, ok, looking forward to it! or ok, I'll call you or talk to you than. blah,blah. something. ANYTHING. I thought since it was texting it was casual and since I'd already agreed there was nothing left to say. Soo, do you see why I'm thinking maybe he thought I was ignoring him??? GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR. I don't know why I thought just the very fact I asked him to hang out was such a huge deal (he has a lot of woman interested in him, so I'm surely he wasn't nearly as impressed with me asking him out as I was with myself!)and that I didn't need to be a little more specific.I'm so annoyed, that wasn't how I meant for things to happen. I know, I know, if he was really interested he would've made more of an effort, blah,blah,blah...but if I was in his shoes, would I want to make more of an effort with a woman who was acting half-heartedly interested in me?????? I want to call him and ask for a more specfiic date, but now I just feel like I'd be annoying him since he knows how to get ahold of me. I hate this crap! One thing I did learn though is I LIKE asking a guy out and making the plans...I wish there wasn't this, if he likes you he'll call or do the asking, planning, etc. It was very empowering to do the asking, I just wish there weren't all of these supposed rules and games that seem to play a factor even when you are trying to be honest! but that's the fun of dating I guess??? lol ahhhhhh.sorry, now I'm just rambling!!!!
another thing too, I gave him an out and said if he didn't want to hang out I'd understand,but he said, no,really, that wasn't it. I suggested if what he had planned to do was not good for him, we could do something else. he seemed relieved and said, yes, getting drinks might be better. at this point I was frustrated he didn't suggest a time, but really, who knows exactly what they are going to do the next week??it was a friday, so I was sure he already had plans, as did I, and couldn't make an exact date for that weekened. sooo,anyways, I left it at, well you know how to get ahold of me, just let me know when is a good time.
sooo,yeah...I'm an idiot. thanks for reading!