how long should i wait?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
how long should i wait?
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Fri, 10-14-2005 - 5:09pm
i recently broke up with my boyfriend becuse he wanted some time alone to figure out his heart etc. this year he broke up with his long time girlfriend and a few months later me and him started dating. we broke up last week but i am wondering if i should wait for him or move on? i know that if you love someone set them free and if they love you and come back its meant to be, but i wonder how long is sufficent??? i am heart broken and miss him terribly, and i realize that me and him are products of bad timing. he is a wonderful man but very confused right now and i am wondering if i should wait and for how long????
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-2003
Fri, 10-14-2005 - 6:23pm

being with him when he wants space does not make sense. and waiting for him hoping that "tomorrow" he will return to you, also does not make sense to me. life should move on. objectively speaking from an outside perspective. i know, when we love someone very dearly, we don't really want to move on and have a hopeful heart. but does it always lead to the result we want? No. everyone has their own mind. there were people who loved me, and i cared for them, but that didn't mean i went back to them. but that does not mean they loved me any less.

did he ask for 'space' specifying a time-frame or is it all very vague. if it is vague, then you should let him go.

you don't have to force urself to see other people if u r not ready for it. it might only lead to more complications. cross that bridge when you come to it. let this settle down...get used to his absence, and just move on in ur daily life for now. that is the only thing i can think of.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 10-16-2005 - 11:52am

While you don't want to make his mistake of rebounding

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