How long should I wait for his call?

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Registered: 01-13-2006
How long should I wait for his call?
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Fri, 01-13-2006 - 3:40am
How long should I wait for a guy to call me after giving him my number? I've been mutually flirting with this guy from work for about a month, and he asked me to go out with him. So, I gave him my number, but it's been about a week and I haven't heard from him. To make matters worse, we did not set a specific day, and we no longer work together (I gave him my number on his last day of work, which is the day he asked me out). I'm still interested, but I don't want to wait forever if nothing is going to come of it. I'm simply asking because I'm a 25 year old inexperienced dater, and I just want to know what the window of opportunity is.
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Fri, 01-13-2006 - 9:06am

I wouldn't be waiting at all. He took your number and that massaged his ego, but he is under no obligation to call you.

Next time, skip the number exchange and set up a date right then and there.

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Registered: 06-13-2003
Fri, 01-13-2006 - 9:52am

Hey there - I would say usually within a week - but maybe 2 weeks - but there are no rules, I know a guy that met a girl overseas on a ski trip and he took her details and didn't contact her for 4 months! They're engaged now.. but that is an exception I think. Guys are strange with taking numbers and not calling - it can be disappointing for sure but hard to figure out why - but i think the ivillage new online videos that interview a bunch of guys answer this very question and it's pretty good - I suggest watching them!

http://ivillage.feedroom.com/ifr_main.jsp;jsessionid=aaewunEBW2-h?nsid=a803a7e6:108c28be826:52a4&st=1137163920420&mp=WMP&cpf=true&fr=011306_095207_803a7e6x108c28be826x52a5&rdm=460278.18445135076

Good luck

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Fri, 01-13-2006 - 9:54am
You should never wait or put your life on hold waiting for a guy to call. Continue to be open to other possibilities, and if he calls, great! If not, you haven't lost anything.
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Registered: 10-22-2004
Fri, 01-13-2006 - 11:11am
One week is kinda a long time to contact someone, my opinion. A man usually doesn't wait that long to call a female there interested in, so he might not be all that interested. You didn't lose anything, and if he calls, which he probably will, you can decide if you want to go out with him. Girl, don't wait, move on, and once you do, he'll be calling, just sit back and enjoy life, forget him!!!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 01-13-2006 - 4:09pm

I don't really understand the concept of "waiting" a specific amount of time for a guy to call. I would just continue to live my life, meet and date other men, etc. If he calls, great; if not, oh well.

Sheri