how long should we wait to ask.........

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
how long should we wait to ask.........
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Thu, 11-03-2005 - 10:23am
how long should we wait to bring up the subject of "where are we going.."???? i waited over 5 months and we ended up breaking up! if the relationship feels like a relationship then why is this question so troublesome?
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 11-03-2005 - 12:57pm
well i think early on it's fair to talk about relationship histories (which will tell you a lot) , goals, etc. in a more general way so you know where his mind is.
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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-23-2005
Thu, 11-10-2005 - 12:11am
I've wondered that myself...Sometimes things are said that make you believe that he's thinking of a future with you...I've been with my bf for almost 5 months and I just turned 31 and he'll be 31 soon also so it kinda makes me think (and hope)that he's looking to settle down in the near future (2 yrs or so) I am trying to finish my college degree currently and have about 3 semesters left so I don't think he is going to rush anything so that I can finish...I wish you the best of luck and feel free to reply!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 11-10-2005 - 1:26pm
again communication about goals, dreams, expectations, etc,
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