How long takes for guys to fall in love
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How long takes for guys to fall in love
| Fri, 01-20-2006 - 10:23am |
Hi everyone,
I have been dating a wonderful guy for a 5 months. We decided to be serious after a month we start dating. We are happy together and I did fall in love with him after three months of dating. And he told me he's falling in love with me. I am not sure if it is true or not. The reason is, he is in divorce process with his ex, I am not sure weither he is ready loving somebody or not? He said he wants to be with me he talks about furture together, I don't know what to do. How do I know if he's really is falling in love with me or how long can I wait to hear that he loves me?
Thanks.

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I was in a similar situation as far as being involved with someone going through separation/divorce. I told him I loved him after 7 months together. His response was he 'probably' felt the same way but he wasn't sure and was not ready to make that kind of commitment. Wellllll, lets just say it took almost 2 years, with an 8 month breakup after the first year, for him to finally realize that he loved me (yes, I felt he was worth giving a second chance to).
Yes, your bf is going through a lot! My guy was still trying to figure out who he was after 17 years of a not so great marriage. Even though he projected confidence, there were still many issues he had to work out on his own.
There are no guarantees to the outcome of any situation. Just try to relax and enjoy your moments with him. Try not to let insecurities get in the way of that enjoyment (I did, not saying that you are). I honestly don't really know the answer to your question. I will say that I am glad that it took that long for him to finally tell me -- because I knew that he was being totally sincere. take care.
Lois
carina1368...
Bob Dylan wrote a terrific song: "LOVE IS JUST A 4-LETTER WORD!" Pianoguy thinks you should download it and listen to the lyrics.
While I'm sure this gentleman you've been dating for 5 months is probably very nice to you and has said some wonderful words....HE'S NOT FREE! One chapter of his life has to COMPLETELY END before he can seriously start a new one with you.
If you can enjoy each other's company with "no expectations" (another Dylan tune)...fine!
But don't pick out the wedding chapel or anything related until adequate time has passed after his divorce is REALLY FINAL!
Pianoguy
newyorkguy
It's not love you are feeling, it's lust. Something else :) is leading you, but it is not your heart. Eaner