How long to tell if I'm interested HELP
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How long to tell if I'm interested HELP
| Mon, 11-01-2004 - 11:21am |
So I have gone out with this guy a few times, mostly in group settings. I met him through an acquaintance and found out he had a crush on me for quite some time. He is very sweet, attentive, and thoughtful. He is a great listener and really enjoys spending time with me. He has told me he is quite shy and I am thinking he is also quite lacking in the self confidence department. Anyways, he is not my "typical" type. But, my typical type also turns into the commitmentphobe or womanizer, so I have begun to think I should change my "type". I feel like I am branching out a bit with this guy. I do like him, but not positive he is for me. How long should it take to figure that out? We've gone on two group dates and once on our own. We have plenty to talk about, but I am not entirely positive there are a ton of sparks. We have kissed and everything and seem pretty compatible there. But, I am thinking I am just drawn to that silly bad boy thing, which he is not. What to do? Do I go out with him a few more times and see if things get better?

Pianoguy honestly wonders if the problem here is a little indecisiveness on your part? You seem to enjoy the difference in this relationship, but you're also frustrated by the fact that this man isn't putting the moves on you!!!!
You didn't indicate how long you two have been dating, but if your past relationships have accelerated to the "quick and dirty stage" faster than you expected...
S-L-O-W D-O-W-N with Mr. Shy!
What's wrong with giving things enough time to spark between you? Don't compare this particular man with the others you've been with. There's always the possibility that he's very respectful of you...and doesn't want to 'push his luck?'
Pianoguy