How long to wait

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Registered: 06-23-2004
How long to wait
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Wed, 06-23-2004 - 4:04pm
Okay,

First off I want to say thanks to anyone who can give me some advice. It will be so appreciated.

I am so confused. My friends are giving me different advice.

I met this guy on monday, so cute and nice, and after a drive home and some serious flirting he gave me his number and then I gave him mine. I really like him. I havent felt this way about a guy in a very long time. By the way, I am so dumb to dating now since I had been in a 8-year relationship and havent dated since I was 20.

I don't know if I should wait until he calls, and if he doesnt should I call him and how long should I wait. He gave me his number first, but he has mine. COnfused but dont want to seem needy!!

I want to go on a date with him!

Rach =)

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Registered: 06-20-2004
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 4:37pm
Call him, ask him out, what have you got to lose? Women don't have to wait for the man to call them anymore.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 4:42pm
If he's interested in dating you, he'll call.

Sheri

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Registered: 06-14-2004
Thu, 06-24-2004 - 12:49am
if I want to ask a guy out , I ask them, it is flattering to them. or the 3 day wait then call... for them anyway.... go for it....have fun
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 06-24-2004 - 11:18am
I'm in the camp that says you should wait for him to call.

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Registered: 06-18-2004
Thu, 06-24-2004 - 3:49pm
I find that men are just as unsure about asking women out, as we are them. There are those men that are extremely shy, and just can't quite make the first move. Go for it, ask him out, but be prepared for him to say no.
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Registered: 06-24-2004
Thu, 06-24-2004 - 4:05pm
I think sometime you need to look within yourself and discover how you really feel. Sometimes other opionions are not honest, due to jealousy or just being overprotective.

As far as your issue, if this guy have made you feel so wonderful inside and he gave you his number, first of all there is no doubt he is into you. Forget the old dating rules of who should call who first. If that man made you feel that great, what is wrong with picking up the phone and calling him, show him you are as into him as he is in you. Just follow your instincts, feelings and judgement. Don't worry about what anyone else feel or think. From your description you are attracted to him in many ways, just lou live your life and enjoy, be happy. Just move at your own pace, dont be quick to rush into a relationship since that is what you are used to. Life is short and happiness is the key, enjoy it to fulliest.

Call him, don't concern yourself with others opinions, just be yourself and enjoy him.

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Thu, 06-24-2004 - 4:10pm
Hello Rach!

Welcome to Ask the Dating Doyenne!!

While there really are no rules, it is a matter of interest... but, there are other factors to consider, such as what is going on in that person's life at the time... sure, some people are naturally more outgoing that others and they will usually show their interest more easily than others.