How long before we commit
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How long before we commit
| Tue, 06-22-2004 - 12:26pm |
I've been seeing my boyfriend for six months now but it still feels like we are in the "getting to know you" phase. Just to recap our relationship, we meet in January 2003 and attempted to date but he wasn'tover his ex-girl friend. We tried being friends but was attracted to each other and had an intimate relationship. This lasted for five months before I decided this wasn't working for me. Eight months passed and somehow we reconnect via email and meet again in Novemeber. The same thing was going go on. We enjoyed each others company and acted like a couple but he still didn't want to date me. So we just continued being close friends. One day in January 2004 he started referring to me as his girlfriend. He has said that he really likes me and likes being with me but he never realized how difficult it was trying to get over his x-girlfriend. So a large part of me never felt that commitment with him even though for the past six months we are always together. We really do care for each other but I'm not sure how much longer do I have to wait for him to feel ready with me. Is there a time limit? Do I stay with him and be there for him? I'm really confused. I find myself constantly feeling moody because I feel like he is thinking about her and he doesn't want to talk to me about it. I have reassure him that I can take it and that I'm here for him. I know that there's not magical solution to relationship. Just wanted to hear your input.
Thanks.
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| Tue, 06-22-2004 - 12:39pm |
It depends on what you are looking for quite honestly.
| Tue, 06-22-2004 - 12:48pm |
Hi. I know that I want to be with him and maybe start a future. We have talked about us before and he is really confused he says. He says he really likes me but he really misses her. I've been in his shoes before and it took me a long time to get over my ex and I guess it more difficult when you are on the receiving end. Some people have said that six months is not a long time. Some of his friends at work doesn't know about me. They work in the same company. His close frinds at work knows about me but not his "friends at work". He doesn't want to complicate things and hurt his x.
| Tue, 06-22-2004 - 1:12pm |
He is not fully on board and committed to you and it really sounds like he isnt ready or even close to it.
