How men thinks in such situation?
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| Mon, 09-06-2004 - 12:28am |
Say you have a female partner with whom you have had sex. SAy you haven't seen her for a long time and miss her a lot, and when you see her again you, you went out having a great time (including kissing). You met 2-3 times like this, everything great except that each time, when you express the desire to have sex, she ignored it. The last time she ignored it again, you were really upset and gave her an angry bye-bye. You know, however, that she hasn't taken up with any other guy.
My question to you gentlemen is, what would you think of this woman? will you break with the woman because she kept ignoring your request, or will you, after some weeks, go back to her and want to eventually have sex with her again (the desire that hasn't been satisfied).

Spice.man and Pianoguy are pretty much 'in sync' with our advice. Keep in mind though that every man has a tolerance level...and it varies.
My only question is....when the sex issue is brought up...are you turning him down because you don't want SEX at all? Or just don't want SEX with him? From the many posts I've read (on various boards)...there are women out there who LOVE everything about a guy EXCEPT his behavior/performance/attitude (or all 3) when it comes to SEX. .
You can't force yourself (or be forced by someone) to express a feeling that just isn't there! So...DON'T! Your attitude will probably frustrate the heck out of us...and turn a few of us away from you...but in the long run...you'll be the one who winds up "frustrated"---if you're uncomfortable!
Pianoguy
Again, my interest is in HIS state of mind, not MINE.
Thanks in advance.
You're asking Pianoguy to read your b/f's mind! Get your b/f to make a posting on this board with his side of the story...and I can be more objective.
As I tried to explain earlier...each man has his own tolerance level. So predicting how your b/f feels is impossible unless I can get inside HIS HEAD!
Pianoguy
Pianoguy doesn't believe that ALL MEN take sex with their partners "as a given!" Many men appreciate the fact that a woman wants to "bond" or share herself in an intimate situation. Granted, SEX is often a logical progression in a relationship...but there still ARE A FEW COUPLES who enjoy each others' company without ending up in bed together!
You DON'T have to do ANYTHING that you DON'T WANT TO! That's why the word: "NO" was invented!
Pianoguy
Did you use sex to try and catch him and now that he is with you, you are now cutting him off for some strange reason?