How to move on?

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Registered: 12-31-1969
How to move on?
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Fri, 12-03-2004 - 6:33pm

I broke up with my boyfriend of a year about a month ago. Our brake up was due to the fact he has a daughter and would like to spend more time with her. He claims he cant do both. At least this is what he tells me...... At the time of the brake up, he didnt want to be friends only what he called cordial. We meet though work and still may have to have a working relationship.
I hadnt heard from him since the brake up until the being of the week. He started calling for what seems like anything he could call for. Then the coversations started to become more personal like how was I doing, and what have I been up too etc.....
I explained to him that it was hard talking to him, but that it was my job and I need to be professinal about it.
Then he calls one day and starts to say I only help him cause its my job and I hate him etc....
So I start to email him back the info instead of calling thinking that this might be better for us and for me to get over the hurt and pain. And of course he sends things back trying to be funny and not work related. I have helped this guy more in the last week then I have helped him in the year we have gone out. He hasnt come out and asked to talk to me about our relationship, only guestions like how I feel, and if its to hard for me to talk to him. Or saying that I hate him and I only help him cause i have too. I feel like he is trying to find out where I stand by beating around the bush instead of just asking me. If he where to call and just talk about business and keep it business I would think different, but the fact that it always goes into somewhat of a personal conversation makes me think he is wanting something out of this. Im not sure what he is doing, and would like to move on. I need advice on how to handle this seeing as he is a customer of mine and I need to be professinal. Maybe im seeing what I want to see, but I need to put this past me.
How can I do this????

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Registered: 11-24-2004
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Fri, 12-03-2004 - 7:11pm
Do you find it within yourself to come right out and ask him "Have you found a way to spend the necessary time with me and your daughter yet???" "If not let's keep this professional and nothing more."
I (me) have this idea that it's all or nothing. When your dealing with emotions and feelings, matters of the heart someone has to step up to the plate and make a move.
If he's into you, great and if he's not then to at least let you know. It seems he still might be.
Ya got to ask!