how much calling is too much calling?

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Registered: 07-10-2003
how much calling is too much calling?
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Fri, 04-23-2004 - 11:05pm
I like this guy and have been talking with him and trying to set things up to meet together. About a month ago, he came to a party I invited him to, stayed a long time, and said he had a good time. Then he went to Japan for a week, and was sick the week after so I didn't see him until last week.

Again, I was the one who asked to do something with him, and he said yes. Now this week I have had a hard week at work and feel burned out a bit, and had made plans to host a party for coworkers this week, so I am not going to be able to call him to do anything this weekend, but I was wondering, should I just wait and see if he contacts me at all during the week? And if he doesn't and I like the guy, should I really keep asking him out?

Is it OK to keep asking some guy out, especially if they say yes, or should I really wait and see if he has any interest in taking the initiative? Something tells me if he would rather have a root canal than see me, I would know, but I'm a bit shy with guys in general and do feel a bit insecure and hate doing all the inviting. I think the guy I am dealing with is pretty shy, so should I keep "working on him," and slowly let him know I'm interested in dating him? Being his friend would be OK too, I think, but I'm just feeling in a weird spot right now...is he humoring me or does he really like to be with me, even if he said he liked hanging out with me and talking to me?
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Registered: 01-13-2004
Sat, 04-24-2004 - 2:46am
You seem pretty comfortable about pursuing him yet you are asking alot of questions about it. This makes me think you would have nothing to lose by not doing anything about him at this point. No calls, etc. This would give you the opportunity to see if he does pursue you at all. If he does'nt call in a week or so, you could always check back in with him since you seem to feel brave enough to do that. But by backing off a bit you will create a situation where you will be able to sort of test his level of interest in you and get more clarity about what's really going on between you two. Just a thought.