how much time is enough time

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Registered: 05-01-2004
how much time is enough time
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Tue, 06-15-2004 - 12:30am
I've known my boyfriend for 5 months now. He was married before. Lately there was an opportunity for them to see each other again after years of no face-to-face. Part of me is afraid of loosing him in this process but part of me knows I must give him this because that's the only way I can see if he will stay or not. Through this process our email and phone communication was reduced a lot and I never said anything about this. It's been a month since this whole thing started and so far nothing's changed. How much time should I give me before I can tell myself it's time to walk out the door completely? He still want to see me but I'd been making up excuses not to see him because to me, once a month of visit and no phone/email communication is a red flag. I'm afraid of falling back if I see him. Yes, I'm one foot out the door but still hoping for a positive result but most of the time I'm afraid that he still has feelings for the ex and I will eventually loose him. I'm in love with him but I'm afraid of falling in love because he has no time for me and I'm not so sure why it's taking a while to get back to our normal communication.
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Registered: 05-26-2004
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 2:20pm
(scratching my head)...You are making excuses not to see him because you arent seeing him enough???
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