How often should I communicate with a casual date?
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|Tue, 02-25-2014 - 12:37am|
Hi all, I met this guy at a friend's birthday party in late December (I'm 27, he's 29 and we live in the same area), we were both attracted and started seeing each others.
We were texting daily and hanging out several times a week on the first few weeks. He brought me to his friends' gatherings (drinks/ dinner) for a few times and introduced me as his friend (his friends liked me). And he kept telling his friends that he always hanged out with me. However, we didn't let our common friends know about us since we had mutual agreement that we didn't want peer pressure and we would like to see how things go first.
Things changed when we were out for drinks 3 weeks ago, we got drunk and slept.
There was a big change in our communication and dating pattern since 3 weeks ago. We stopped crazily texting (number of texts dropped from 100/ day to a few every 1 or 2 days), we stopped meeting on Monday to Thurs but "automatically reserved" at least 1 or 2 days on the weekends for each others, just the two of us. We often planned the next date ahead and stopped chit chatting during the week (e.g When it comes to an end of a date, we would confirm what's happening on next Friday, and either of us would grab tickets for movies / shows during the week then notify the other party about it).
I wonder if there was a good change after the previous weekend. We hanged out last Friday night and sleptover at his place. We went to our common friends' gathering on Saturday night (still pretending to be normal friends.. weird huh). We went for movies again on Sunday morning, and he suddenly asked me to text our common friends during the day, and let them know that we were hanging out for the whole day today and see if anyone wanna hang out with us later at night. End up my friends weren't free. People started asking if we were dating and I didn't know what to tell them.
We've just planned our next date ahead (movies on the weekend) and stopped chit chatting during the week again. I wonder if this is normal. I'm not officially his girlfriend and I didn't want to act like an annoying woman who kept texting him nonsense and expecting him to keep chatting. What are we now?