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How old...?
| Sun, 05-13-2007 - 10:56am |
Hello...
I have a quick question. I've just started seeing someone who adores me. He's absolutely lovely and is a great guy, except that he's quite a bit older than I am - I'm 25 and he's 44. How old is too old? I don't mind that he's much older than me (I've always preferred older men anyways), but what do others think?
Thanks!
hb789

Hi,
I don't think a 19 yr age difference is that big. What is more important is the maturity level of the parties involved. I don't know about you but there's a big difference b/w a 25 yo and a 44 yo where as a 40 yr going out with a 59 yo is not as bad. I can only tell from my own experience is that someone in their 20's are not ready to settle down and is still trying to find her place in the world where as someone over 40's most likely has already experienced enough of life to know what they want and where they want to be. A 20 something is still receptive and even vulnerable emotionally while someone in their 40's is less likely to give in and more inflexible which could set the younger partner up for a rude awakening.
You may be attracted to older men but that attraction does not necessarily indicate you'd be acompatable. There's no age cut off per se but if you were 35 and he 54 that may have a slightly better chance.
Hello,
Thanks for your message... We do have lots in common, and we get along great, but I have often wondered about the generation gap. I do like that he's more experienced in life but I am also intrigued that we seem to have clicked. I have dated younger guys before (about 4-6 years younger?) and those didn't work out simply because we weren't on the same track.
I'm trying to take things slowly, to see what eventually happens... If any alarm bells go off my self-protection will kick in and (hopefully) stop me from doing anything too stupid. :)
Cheers!
hb789
It's obviously your life and your decision and there are plenty of relationships with big age gaps.