How should I deal with this?

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Registered: 09-29-2007
How should I deal with this?
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Sat, 09-29-2007 - 10:19pm

About 6 months I met a guy at work

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Sun, 09-30-2007 - 11:31am
Well, you are not friends below the surface. So the real question is what do you do with this new emotion you are feeling for this guy?
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Registered: 04-02-2007
Sun, 09-30-2007 - 9:38pm

Sounds like an emotional affair to me. Which can be just as damaging as a physical one.
Does your boyfriend know of this relationship, has he met him, if not, why?

Is something missing in your current relationship? If something is missing either work on that or leave your bf. If your bf was carrying on with someone he worked with as you are how would that make you feel? And would you be comfortable with him being "friends" with her?

You work with the guy, it is very easy to think wow he is great, you spend a lot of time together at work, you laugh together, have a good time. You do not really know him in a social setting, you don't know what he is like away from work, he might not be as great as you think, besides he has a girlfriend, if he will act like that with you he will do it to you. And getting involved with someone you work with, if it doesn't workout can be a real pain, and a lot more hassle than it was ever worth.

IMO....Men and women can be just friends, but that is only if there is no sexual attraction between them. And with each of you being in a relationship, if your partner is kept in the dark about the friendship, then something is wrong. Good luck.

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Registered: 02-13-2006
Sun, 09-30-2007 - 11:36pm

Do you know if this coworker has any kids?What about you?Like someone said before...you don't know how he is in social settings.Have you asked other coworkers if he's dated anyone before at this work?


Don't do the coward thing and start something with this person.You need to try to fix the real proble...you and your bf.

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Registered: 09-29-2007
Mon, 10-01-2007 - 3:14pm

Thank you all for your thoughts... My boyfriend and I