how should I deal with this

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Registered: 11-09-2005
how should I deal with this
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Tue, 03-14-2006 - 11:48am

I have been out of the dating scene for awhile. There guy working in my building and I mentioned to a mutual friend of ours that I thought he was cute. He told her that he wanted to ask me out and what did she think I would say. She told him the only way to find out was to ask. Anyway, he is really shy and apparently he kept trying to and got nervous. Said everytime he saw me he got butterflies in his stomach. Now, maybe I should have initiated something but like I said I have been out of this for a while. My friend even told him I was older and had kids and he said he didn't care. To cut a long story short- he had to leave this building to go work at another building and won't be back for 9 weeks and he never worked up the nerve to ask me out. Well, I would like to go out with him. Should I say something to the mutual friend who would probably be able to let him know, or should I adopt the attitude that he knows where to find me and if he really wants to ask me out he can or should I just wait the 9 weeks until he gets back.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-09-2005
Mon, 03-20-2006 - 10:03am
I asked the security guard if she knew which building he was working in and she doesn't. She doesn't know where his friend is working either; only that he will be back in our building in 2-3 weeks. If you have any detective ideas let me know. He was sooo sweet. My problem is I am shy too so I wasn't very aggressive either. Two shy people - not a good equation for hooking up.

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