How soon is too soon?

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Registered: 06-27-2006
How soon is too soon?
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Wed, 06-28-2006 - 4:21pm
I met this guy that I really am attracted to. He seems to be really into me as well. I know I might be jumping the gun but if this continues when is it ok to sleep with him? There are just a lot of sparks and it seems like we are really attracted to eachother in all ways. I don't want to ruin anything though. Any advice? Thanks!
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Registered: 11-21-2003
Wed, 06-28-2006 - 11:45pm
IMHO, it depends on what you want with this guy: a serious committed relationship or a FWB deal. If he hasn't asked you to be his GF and you sleep with him this behavior could let him to believe that you're in for a "FWB" kind of deal. However, it's perfectly OK to have sex with him if you want to. You're adult and if you both want it then go ahead. Either way, you sleep with him when you and only you're ready.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 9:06am

hollsi...

Pianoguy would like to answer your question with one of his own:

"After you've decided to sleep with the man a few times and he suddenly stops paying attention to you....can you handle the rejection? Or will you start feeling angry, bitter, and EXTREMELY ANGRY?"

Any woman can 'surrender her body' when she feels the time is right, but expecting a lifelong guarantee of fidelity from THE MAN WHO HAS ENJOYED HER...is another story entirely!

Think about it...

Pianoguy

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Registered: 06-27-2006
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 10:31am
Good point. Thanks for the advice :) Definitely something to think about...
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 06-29-2006 - 2:13pm

How often have you dated him? Have you slept with other people? How will you feel if you sleep together and he fades away?


There are no hard and fast rules other than be safe but very often when a girl sleeps with someone she


winds up feeling an intense emotional connection which maynot be reciprocated 'cause to guy it was just sex.


Do what feels comfortable but not something you think you might regret, Besides, waiting

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