How soon is too soon?
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| Wed, 11-09-2005 - 4:23pm |
I'm new to this so I'll try to make this short and to the point.
I recently broke up with my boyfriend of a year about 3-4 weeks ago because I finally was able to admit that the relationship wasn't going to be long term. Looking back now, I realize that I'd known this a few months prior to the breakup.
Prior to the breakup by a few months, I met a guy through work and we became friends. We didn't spend much time together (usually once or twice a week for a few months)and only in a professional, work setting. However we did get to know each other a bit through work.
Now This guy has asked me on a date. He's a really nice guy, who I get along with really well. I'm planning on going on a date with him, but my friends and I all have varying ideas of how soon is too soon to go on a date. I thought I'd ask you.
Any thoughts?
Thanks for your help!

no one can make that decision for you but you're definitely right to wonder if it's too soon. it sounds like you somewhat at least have the breakup in perspective...i think it's fine to start socializing but in terms of serious dating that might be something you want to beware of, you don't want to leap into something out of loneliness, need, etc, esp someone you have to face at work
keep being in touch with your feelings, checking in with caring friends, etc. Be good to yourself which includes making new friends but maybe not friends who are quite THAT good just yet
Thanks to all of you for your thoughts. It's always nice to get other's perspectives.
Thank you!