How to tell if a guy is interested?

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Registered: 06-22-2004
How to tell if a guy is interested?
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Tue, 06-22-2004 - 6:56pm
I know there are some articles that are on this topic, but it doesn't really help my situation...

I've been talking to this guy for the past 3 weeks now. We never really talked about what we wanted from each other, we talk like we are friends. However, he did invite me out with his friends one time, and he spent the whole nite with me, we danced, we kissed, and he held my hand, and even showed some kind of jealousy...anyway, it was safe to assume that he was attracted to me (even my friend who was there with me said he really liked me).

After that fun weekend, we continued to talk like we did without really mentioning about what happened that nite. He invited me out once again with his friends. Unfortunately I was too tired that day and since it was such short notice, I didn't go out. But when the weekend came again, this time I invited him out with my friends, but he already made plans with his friends who were going somewhere else. Anyway, so he suggested that since our group of friends were not going to the same place, he suggested to meet up alone afterwards. He ended calling me that nite when he left his friends, and we met up and talked until the sun came up. Before we departed, he kissed me passionately. I thought everything was great.

Now, the problem is, since that nite of talking until sunrise, he hasn't tried to contact me. I don't know what is going on. Before that, we talked almost every single day. I think the last meeting we had was great, there was no sex involved, and we actually had a good conversation and found lots of things in common. But why all of a sudden is he avoiding me? I thought it was going well...I waited a few days and finally swallowed my pride and contacted him, but he hasn't returned my messages. What should I do from this point on?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 9:23pm
Ugh, I'm sorry, but there's really nothing you CAN do. The ball is definitely in his court, and he's sitting on it. I'm sure it has nothing to do with YOU, and much more to do with him...maybe he has a gf he didn't tell you about, or he is too emotionally messed up to be starting a r'ship...who knows???

Comfort yourself with the knowledge that a guy who was right for you would have called.

Sheri

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Registered: 06-22-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 11:12pm
Thank you Sheri...I've already left him a message and yes, no response. I know a lot of girls tend to keep calling and emailing, but I refuse to do that. He knows exactly how to reach me if he wanted to...

I know I've only known him for such a short period of time, but it seems like this happens all the time. Waiting for a phone call is always the worst feeling. Your heart jumps everytime the phone rings and I'm always left with disappointment. It really really hurts....