how will u spark it up

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Registered: 06-25-2004
how will u spark it up
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Thu, 08-05-2004 - 6:22pm
hi,

just want to ask a couple of advice.... been away from my gurl for a couple of months.. in the middle part.. the communication was not that good(we called but did not talk much. well i guess things are going on smooth again now. will be seeing her again soon.. what surgestion will u give.. for us to have a better relationship. i guess i really missed her but i dont want to be to mushy when i get back (u ..know..over do it!!....i'll rather she is all over me like that.)

what are the kind of things u suggest ...that will spark up things real good.. thanks
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Registered: 08-05-2004
Thu, 08-05-2004 - 6:59pm
You need to tell her how you feel, ya know, tell the truth. The relationship will never be real unless you are real.

The comment about "I don't want to be mushy" makes me think you don't really care for her as much as you think you do. Could it be just a lust or infatuation with her? If you really did like her, then you wouldn't worry about being macho...the words would just come pouring out without worry of making a fool of yourself. The bonus here - if you do really care for her and you let her know, and she really cares for you, then all the rest just falls into place.

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Thu, 08-05-2004 - 8:19pm
Jada, what a sweet guy you are to be concerned about this! If you read some of the other postings on this board, you will notice A LOT of ladies are not getting the affection they want from their men. So thanks for the question!!!

I understand exactly what you mean about getting mushy. It's embarassing for me to do as well, and I am a girl! There are other ways to get across your affection without seeming to be too mushy. One way, and this works for me big time, is touch. Touch her throughout your day with her, lightly, and not pushy. This speaks volumes about your feelings and I am one lady who enjoys the affection, so maybe she will as well.

Also, look her way a lot when you think she's not looking. She will notice, believe me, and will think it's cute.

Just a couple of suggestions. Hope I have helped.

Good luck with your lady, Jada! I hope she appreciates you.

amjay45

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Registered: 07-30-2004
Fri, 08-06-2004 - 6:01am
I think amjay's suggestions are good ones :)

just know that girls do like being told things. make sure to tell her that she looks great, & that you've missed her. that always works.
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Registered: 06-25-2004
Mon, 08-09-2004 - 3:19pm
hey ...thanks everyone......=)


so ladies.... wat do you think keeps u attracted in a your men


guys .... how do u keep your ladies attracted