How Would you all Take This????

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Registered: 05-29-2006
How Would you all Take This????
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Fri, 07-28-2006 - 1:46pm

Ok everyone,

I have kind of a stupid question… I just need a little advice on how you would all take something that happened to me today…

I met a guy on match.com a few days ago. We exchanged a couple of emails on there, then it went to IM's on aol, then to the phone where we had an awesome 2 hour conversation. He called me the next day and we spoke for a bit again (yesterday).

Let me give a bit of background to help you all understand the story first. I am 29, he is 36. He works as a limo driver. We live about 1/2 hour apart.

Ok, so he calls me yesterday and says "I know it's short notice, but I was wondering what you're doing tonight because my boss called and said my pickup cancelled.. Would you want to go meet?" I had a nice convo with him and wanted to meet him so I said "sure" and we made up a time to meet and we met. There was instant attraction, he told me I looked better in person and I could just tell he liked me and I was very happy with what I saw too. He also was very funny and had me laughing all night long. The only thing with him was if I let him, he would've had sex with me last night. We kissed and fooled around a little bit, we did a few things, but I was NOT going to sleep with him on the first date. So anyway, we hung out until 2am (we met up around 8:30-9pm). He said he would definitely be calling me and not to make any plans for Saturday because he wanted to see me again. He also called me when I got home at 2 just to make sure I made it home ok. Now here's where my question lies….

He said he was going to call me today during my lunch hour. So 12:40 comes and he calls. I pick up my phone and it was very bad connection and he was driving. He says "ok, I'm just calling you to say hi because I told you I would"… I thought that was a little rude. Then I think he asked me when I get home and I told him 4pm and his phone cut out. I called him back and got nothing. So I waited and tried one last time because I really didn’t hear anything he said before, and he picks up and says in a hushed voice "I'm driving someone home, that's why I can't talk, plus I'm in a bad area and it would be nice if I could hear you and its very frustrating, I'll call you at 4 and he sounded like he was about to hang up on me or something. He just sounded pissy and cold and I am really upset now because I don’t know what to think. Is this guy really an a**hole who was just trying to put up a front to try and get in my pants last night and when he didn’t now he's going to be a nasty a**?? Or was he just working and unable to talk?? I don’t know whether to give him the benefit of the doubt or not. I don’t even know now if he'll really even call me later because he sounded kind of irritated at me for calling him back when he couldn't talk. I know this sounds immature to write about, but the thing is I was very hurt in the past and I'm sometimes a little too analytical and careful, plus I took a year off from dating, so I'm not used to how to handle dating things.

Please help, need opinions.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 07-28-2006 - 3:23pm

WOW--oh my gosh, do NOT go there!!! The guy has someone in his limo, he's working and you are analysing things because he couldn't talk right then???? You are being completely unrealistic if you think he should have been relaxed and eager to talk to you under those circumstances. He couldn't *talk* right then--what did you *expect* him to sound like??????

That doesn't sound "analytical and careful" to me, that sounds completely over-sensitive and bordering on neurotic!

Now, if he doesn't call this afternoon or evening, fine, but based on what you wrote I think you're really over-reacting.

Sheri

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 07-29-2006 - 3:32pm

jackia_83176...

PG agrees with Sheri 100%!

You ARE overreacting!

Have you considered the fact that the man was probably in the middle of doing his job (he's a chauffer, correct?) when he telephoned you?

Let me see if I have this right??? You've had one date together and you're already picking this man apart? I can guarantee that you'd never get a 2nd date out of me if this is the way you behave!

Let's work on the maturity angle from your side....FIRST! Then you can see if you get another phone call?

Pianoguy


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Mon, 07-31-2006 - 8:31am

Just wanted to update everyone on this:

Turned out you guys were all right, I was acting like a complete idiot. He called and left a message on my cell phone after that pickup to apologize if he had an attitude but he had someone in the car and there was bad reception on top of it. Not only was there a second date, but there was a third and everything's been going great. Yes, its fast but he asked me out. I've had this happen to me sooner than 3 dates and it lasted a good while and we almost got engaged, so i'm not playing any "dating games", i'm just gonna go with it and do what feels right.