How/when to divulge odd living situation

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Registered: 03-19-2007
How/when to divulge odd living situation
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Mon, 03-19-2007 - 8:11pm
I have a bit of an odd living arrangement, and I'm trying to figure out the best way to divulge it to a date, as well as when to divulge it. I'm 30 years old and own my own home, but several years back my parents divorced and my mom wanted to start out in a new place to get away from the situation. So being the good daughter, I invited her to move in with me. She's lived with me for a bit over 4 years now, she works full-time but isn't finacially capable of living on her own. I don't intend to ask her to move out, so I realize this makes my dating life a bit more difficult. I'm just wondering when and how to bring this up to a date, I don't want to scare them off!
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Registered: 11-21-2003
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 10:09pm
I'd say that you care for an elderly parent in your home, a home you own. There is nothing more to add to it.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 03-25-2007 - 3:29pm

ivil_browneyedgirl8...

Pianoguy realizes that having Mom "move out" after co-habitating with you for 4 years is more than a little awkward. .

Is there another family member or a 'close friend' of your Mom's who would be willing to share a place and expenses? This way you can move on with your personal life as opposed to feeling like "I'M DUMPING MY MOTHER OUT ON THE STREET!"

Most parents usually understand that there are times to be around their children...and other times when they should be "out of the picture?"

The question I have for you is: "Are you brave enough to let your Mom know that you need your space back and that you don't want to hurt her feelings?" Perhaps you need to discuss the issue with someone your Mom trusts and admires before bringing the 2 of you bring up the subject with HER?

Good Luck!

Pianoguy