Huge crush, need help!
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Huge crush, need help!
| Mon, 02-06-2006 - 11:07pm |
I am very interested in a guy that comes into my work (a gym). He stops to talk everytime he's in, a lot longer than anyone else does, and I've asked him about a girlfriend...nothing serious he says. My problem is that I am an outgoing person until it comes to guys. When I am at work, in my safe zone, I am very outgoing and friendly ect., but outside of it I can be pretty shy. How do I let him know that I am interested in him and want to get to know him better without making it weird for him to continue coming to the club? We also have quite different schedules, he works monday-friday days, and I work M-F until 11:00pm. HELP!

Ideally,we should all be confident with nerves of steel and asking Mr. Wonderful out should be no big deal -- yeah right. But we live in the real world, so girl get a plan. I have found the most success and least embarassment in engineering the impromptu offer. You say he talks to you quite often and more than just a how you doing. Use that. Think of a date, or just the main activity for one, that is easy to slip into conversation -- like a new movie or a new restaurant. Then the next time you talk to him be reading a review of it or say something like I was thinking about checking out (whatever it is) when he asks what you're doing. Ask him if he's heard anything about it or has tried it. If he's seen the movie, ask him about it. Then use that to ask him about another movie. If he shows interest in seeing the movie, ask him if he'd like to go see it with you. Same with the restaurant idea. Although if he's already tried it and liked it you don't have to think of a new one -- ask if he'll go with you since he knows more about it.
Good luck and happy hunting!
I agree with kelleyqa. I'm that type of girl too that I just go for it! But because you say you are "shy", you may start by just dropping hints that you want to see this new movie, go to this new restaurant, etc. etc. Perhaps he will get the hint first and actually ask you out. But if that doesn't work, then I say go for it! The fact that he talks to you everyday is a good sign that he is interested. I don't want to guarantee you that he would say yes to an invitation from you, but from what you said, the chances are very very high :)
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