A HUGE dilemma :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-19-2006
A HUGE dilemma :)
3
Sun, 12-31-2006 - 7:12am
Hi!
I have a dilemma...there is this guy! I liked him...and it turned out he likes me to! EVen more than I like him! We got together, had good times but the problem is...HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND and he doesn't have guts to break up with her.
I do meet him from time to time. I tried to break up with him once! But he comes back to me...I like him but I feel really sorry for her! I sometimes feel sorry for me! I am not the kind of girl that will meet someone in the street because we can't go out in public...
What to do? I am not really in love with him and kinda enjoy having fun like this!
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2002
Sun, 12-31-2006 - 10:10am
Just keep thinking of what he's doing to her and what YOU are doing to her. That is such a crock of being "too afraid" to dump her. What, will she go all nutso? Is he "afraid" to hurt her? What you two are doing is FAR more hurtful than if he just broke up with her and YES, it is what you TWO are doing because you are a willing participant in the cheating - you know he has a girlfriend. You can make a conscious decision to stop it/ Put yourself in her shoes. Besides, chances are, you will be in her shoes eventually if you wind up with him. If he can do it WITH you, he'll do it TO you. Do you really want a gutless coward that is stringing some poor girl along because he doesn't have the guts to break up with her?? If you're not the kind of girl to meet in secret because you're with a guy who is CHEATING, then don't be.

131.gif image by y_baros th5K.gif image by jade_simo

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2003
Sun, 12-31-2006 - 8:38pm
Start seeing other men as soon as possible. He is two-timing his girlfriend; that is nasty. Iri
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-31-2006
Sun, 12-31-2006 - 11:54pm
Stop.
Respect yourself - know that if he's cheating on one girlfriend, there's no way you'll be any different - He's got everything he wants and doesn't have to be accountable for it - he sounds more like an 'in-between' guys kinda fling - choose to leave it - and respect yourself not to do it again.