huh???

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Registered: 11-30-2006
huh???
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Thu, 11-30-2006 - 11:03am
Being a college student, I’m probably one of the youngest here...but I’m really confused by a fellow junior at my school named Stephen. He asked me to the mid-semester semi-formal at his frat and I would have gone, but i had a relative's wedding to go to, so i couldn't. I met him about a week before that and made sure to take things slow cause he'd just gotten out of a five month relationship… but he's acted really weird at times. After I went to the wedding, he said he was really excited to see me that weekend at their party - and then proceeded to say about five words to me the entire night...we’ve gone to lunch together, and I understand he's really busy (he just got awarded school honors for his 3.75 at Dartmouth which is really hard to do)...but sometimes he doesn’t respond to my text messages and other days I’ll get a text from him saying “good luck on your test today “ or “hope you’re having a good day”…and kissing him can get really awkward cause he knows I’m a virgin and I know he’s not (does dating a virgin scare guys?)...but he'll get nervous when we're hooking up and tries to be really careful where he puts his hands, telling him I was a virgin kind freaked him out I think and he’ll jokingly call me a tease...also, when I run into him around campus sometimes and I get a huge bear hug and other times it’s “oh...hey” – but I’ve gotten both reactions from him when he’s been alone or with friends….and I overheard one of his friends tell him I was really cute and Steve got all territorial and immediately made plans to see me the next night… and one night he came over to hang out and we were just kissing/cuddling in my bed and he’d been there for about 30 mins before he suddenly said started ragging on the music that was on – our school acapella and how girls just throw themselves at them and then he abruptly said he had to go cause he had to give a speech at 9 am the next morning, and he knows i don’t like any roof the singers and I’m not like that, but why would he say that?... and I told him last night about how I got asked to a formal at another house, but said no…hoping to get some reaction out of him … but he said he was in the middle of an essay could he talk to me later (it was 2 am so I didn’t want to distract him) and I know he's a nice guy, but what the heck? Why so hot and cold?
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Registered: 05-09-2006
In reply to: nyc22066
Thu, 11-30-2006 - 12:41pm
Guys are like that sometimes. Who knows why he is acting weird. He might really like you but doesn't know how to handle it, or it could be something else. I would keep my distance from him for a while and let him come to you. Sometimes if a guy really likes you, he gets scared and will pull away. Give him some space, and if he is really interested in you, he will come around. If he doesn't respond, then he is probably not interested, and better that you know now. Good luck!