Humbled & In Need of Advice
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| Sat, 05-26-2007 - 7:53am |
About two months ago I had a discussion going concerning a guy I had met. Don't know how many remember it, but it was about this guy who seemed like a dream come true. However we were both in relationships at the time but mine relationship had been so up and down that when it seemed this guy asked me out I decided to end my current relationship for what seemed better and more convenient. The guy who had asked me out was also in a relationship (or two, who knows at this point) but it was confusing as he had told me that they had broken up. I found out later that the girl he "broke up with" was not his official girlfriend but that he had an official girlfriend that he didn't seem happy with. Long story short we went out a few times (although nothing ever happened). I even asked him what was going on because I didn't know how to behave around him. The first time he ignored the question, the second time he attempted to ignore it but I wouldn't let him. We had a discussion on it, decided to remain friends although I was really upset because I had ended things with my boyfriend and now the new guy and I are nothing. We don't talk at all or spend time together. It was his choice - he said he felt due to recent events that he must be reserved about spending time with me. The guy is a jerk and I would like to start off by saying that everyone on this board was right. And I realize now with my old boyfriend not even talking to me nor have I at least gained a friend out of this whole situation that there is definitely cause to remember that whatever seems to be too good to be true probably is. Not to mention I found out that the new guy, despite his claims of loyalty in the beginning, has already cheated on his girlfriend with someone else at work and god knows how many other girls.
My needing advice comes from the knowledge of his moving around the job, looking for random girls to sleep with, and that he seems to have settled on his latest victim who is actually engaged. This woman (and I say woman because she is ten years his senior) a couple of months ago couldn't be happier about the guy she is engaged to and had the wedding planned out for November. Meanwhile this guy is in her office everyday chatting with her, even on his days off. He hangs around her constantly and I mean literally hangs around her (like he used to do with me). Last night a bunch of us went out, including knucklehead, and the usual flirting was going on. I also noticed that she wasn't wearing her engagement ring. I was talking to her and I found out that she now wants to postpone her wedding, it's too soon after her divorce, that she needs sometime away from her fiance, and that she doesn't seem as thrilled as she used to be when talking about her fiance whom she once described her life with him as "everyday is valentine's day". I've met her fiance - he's wonderful. I know in my heart that it has something to do with this jerk because all he does is interfere and that british charm lands him a lot of opportunities I'll say. But he is is a piece of sh*t, a cheater, probably brimming with disease and all he will do is ruin her life and hurt her in the end. This guy is only after sex and I know that once he realized that I wasn't into sleeping with random guys, my use suddenly wore out and there was no purpose to keeping me around. But what do I do if anything? I feel awful. I want to warn her but I'm sure it will come out as jealousy. Not to mention I am only friendly with this person - not friends so I'm not sure what my place is. I mean if you are truly unsure about your engagement for legitimate reasons than by all means take a break but not for this jerk and I know it's because of him because the coincidence in the timing is just a little too much.
Do I do anything?
| Sat, 05-26-2007 - 10:15am |
