"I always let HIM call ME"..still??

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Registered: 12-14-2005
"I always let HIM call ME"..still??
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Thu, 10-25-2007 - 3:19pm
So I've been out with this guy on three fun, chemistry filled dates. I like him. I know he at least is really attracted to me and likes me, I don't know at this point who's more into who really. My question is..up to this point I've let him always call me after the date to make the next arrangements, push it forward. At this point, I'd just like to call him myself tomorrow to make our next plans. I feel reasonably confident that he wants another date, and honestly I just don't feel like waiting to hear from, him, I want to try to make it happen. Am I ruining things by calling him, will he be turned off? IF he is, should I care?
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 4:40pm
If you are nervous about it, and I dont think you should be, you can can call
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 5:05pm

I think that if he is into you, he won't mind at all that you call him and ask him out.

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 5:54pm

I agree with Sheri here. If he's interested in you, he'll probably like that you call him. But, it's still quite early on, and if you call, you won't know for sure if he would have called again. I think it's totally fine and good to call once you have a solid grasp of his interest -- and that might be in just several more dates. But early on, I generally want him to call me. Why? Because the kind of guy I'm interested in will take action to convey his interest in me. Early on I'm gathering information about him to find out if he is an action-taker. So if I call him, I won't know that for sure.


But, that said, we all have to go with our intuition in the individual situation. Only you know this particular guy and this particular situation. So if it feels right to you to call him, go ahead!


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Registered: 10-09-2007
Sun, 10-28-2007 - 12:53am
Hah, girl I would not call.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 10:45am
There is nothing at all wrong with you calling him tomorrow. However sorry to sound a bit retro but it has only been 3 dates - i don't think it would hurt to wait a day or two for him to make the first move.
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