I am 10 years younger than him

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Registered: 10-09-2006
I am 10 years younger than him
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Thu, 06-28-2007 - 8:00pm

I am 22 years old and will be graduating college this year and begin teaching. The man I am seeing is a teacher (32 years old), in fact he was my highschool teacher. I really want to know if it is wrong to date him. We are very attracted to each other and have a lot in common. I care for him and he cares for me as well. The other night was the first time we actually went out on a date. Before that it was phone calls, emails, and texts. I do not want to ruin his job and I am in desperate need of advice.
Is seeing him wrong?
Would others frown upon this?

Please help!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-25-2007
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 9:33pm

Legally, you can't "ruin" his job. Is it wrong to date him? No, not at all. Will others "frown" upon this? Well, that's a different story. I'm not saying people should frown upon it, but depending on the type of community in which he teaches, things could be a potential issue for him, in terms of being uncomfortable. You would need to think about things...like for example, if one of your friends from high school were to get married in a few months, would you be willing to take him as your date if he were your boyfriend?

Go for it if you want to...just know there could be some hurdles, but nothing you can't necessarily overcome.

~Kelly~

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 10:05pm
I see your position similar to another poster who wanted to date her doctor. Legally, no he could not get into trouble - if your relationship did not start when you were in high school. If it started after you graduated high school I don't see a problem, but you may always find yourself being his "student" as opposed to an equal because that is how the dynamics began between the two of you.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sat, 06-30-2007 - 8:54am
You're both of age, you didn't date while you were his student, correct? The only two opinions that count are yours and his.
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