I am freaking out
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| Thu, 12-28-2006 - 11:54am |
Omg, I am so freaking out - there is this guy that I met online. From the intiatial email he made it known that he is attracted to my picture. Anyway we started IMing and found that we really have a lot in common. I have been dating for about 5 months now and what I just realize is he is the person that has all the qualities that I am looking for in a partner (so far)
An embarrasing situation happened to him on his date with me...and I feel bad for him so I made it clear to him that I had a great time on our date and I would like to see where our encounter goes. He immediately called me and told me he wanted another date with me either Friday or Saturday which ever is better for me.
I should be excited right (wrong) I am freaking out...... Now I am having second thoughts about letting him know what directions I want this to go...but I think he is thinking that I want to hook up with him...OMG. I am not that type of person - I need the emotional connection first and maybe just maybe after a good while dating and when I get that committment talk from the guy and I can trust him I probably will take it to the next level.
The thing is I am extremely exotic and beautiful girl who have stop a few men in their tracks so I am not short of guys chasing after me (not to be egocentric or anything but that is how it has been)However, I find that I am like their little exotic fantasy and it seem as if all they want with me is a fling,and nothing else. I have an awesome job - 4 degrees and currently working on double Masters MS/MBA so I am not in the least bit dumb. I am a conservative person who does not flirt at all so it is the men who are approaching me out of their free will, as did this guy.
Anyway, I really like this guy -we get along soo well we just have this great chemistry online and in person. Should I let him know where I stand or should I just go with the flow until the situation comes up. I just cringe when he says complimentary stuffs to me but in a sexual way for example - he dedicated a song to me that says - "I wonna love and I already know -by Akon and Snoop Doggy"
Do you think this guy could ever fall for me without us getting physical and not just want a fling - he wants my opinions on stuff, I just get this warm vibe coming from him as he speaks to me very softly and is in the present when he is with me and wants to know about my likes and dislikes etc.
Any additional comments would be appreciated..

If he is flirting in a sexual way after meeting you in person once, you should see this as a red flag. It sounds like he's definitely interested in a 'fling'.
As for 'he has all the qualities..." you're jumping to conclusions. You only know what he's told you online. You have to take a lot of time to get to know someone (in real life, by seeing their actions) before you can really know this. You could talk to him every day for a year online and then meet in person and find out in 2 weeks that he's nothing that he claims to be.
So, my advice - don't date guys who talk sexual very early on, and don't decide that this is Mr. Right before you really get to know him. You're already seeing ONE thing wrong with him - that he's disrespectful (making comments) so is THAT one of the qualities that you want in a guy?