I am sooooo through with all MEN!!!

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I am sooooo through with all MEN!!!
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Thu, 11-15-2007 - 3:47pm

Well this isn't a question, just my two cents on what I think of the male species. I swear I could write a book on all the screw up guys I have met in my life. Anyways, I am 36 years old and never been married with no kids. I have had 3 serious relationships in my life and lately have been meeting jerk after jerk. They are either liars, want just sex (which I don't give it up easily), weird, or just play games left and right. This past guy I thought was soooo different. Granted, we only went out 4 times but I thought I had found a winner. I had such a good time with him. He was married once and got divorced back in 2000. Since then he had an ex girlfriend he was living with up until 8 months ago. She has two teenagers from a previous marriage and they were living in his house. 8 months ago he kicked her out of his house. He never really talked alot about his past relationships with me much but when he did talk about his ex girlfriend (not the one he was married to...the one with the 2 teenagers,) he said she was a very jealous person and he just couldn't take it. I guess she was blaming him for things that was never his fault. One time he said there was a tank top laying on his bed and she didn't know who's it was, so she blamed him of seeing someone else.


Ok, so I met him at a bar and I swore I would never meet any "good" guys at bars, but I thought "hey maybe I just did." He was such a gentleman with me. Our first date he met me out for dinner and paid. The next time we went out to dinner again and saw a movie and he paid. I offered to pay some because I feel hey it is 2007, I work too..I was just being nice. He thought that was nice of me and I paid for the movie. The third time I went to his house and he made me dinner. It was AWESOME!!! I did keep thinking to myself "this is way too good to be true." But I was on cloud 9 and really getting to like him. He would text me in the mornings and say how he had such a good time and I was really nice and he likes me alot. Well the 4th date was his birthday. I was so happy to be spending the day with him. I took him out to dinner and paid, plus I baked him a cake and got him

 

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Thu, 11-15-2007 - 5:45pm

Actually no - I'm NOT saying its ALL your fault any more than its ALL anyone else's fault. It takes 2 people to have a conflict. I was speaking in more general terms about your conveyed perceptions on men

Toni

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Thu, 11-15-2007 - 8:32pm

I appreciate your need to vent and I'm sure it did you a world of good.

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Fri, 11-16-2007 - 12:05am

Well i think that perhaps you need to reframe this experience.... You sound upset, but once you get over it you will

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Fri, 11-16-2007 - 12:31pm

I think the point most people are trying to make is that when you keep attracting men with the same issues, quite often the first place to look is within ourselves to find out WHY we keep attracting that.

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Fri, 11-16-2007 - 1:38pm

You are wise to see that a person could allow someone who she has dated 4 times to have too much power over her emotions.

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Fri, 11-16-2007 - 2:23pm

As usual, a man is guilty until proven innocent based solely on a woman's imagination and fabricated assumptions.

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Fri, 11-16-2007 - 2:35pm
I didnt say the guy actually did this, but I have seen this happen to couples and it really does happen.
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Tue, 11-27-2007 - 1:52pm

Thanks everyone for your opinions on this situation. I want you all to know that I don't think "all" guys are bad.

 

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Tue, 11-27-2007 - 3:49pm

Good luck greta.

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Tue, 11-27-2007 - 4:09pm

Thanks Snafu,


You don't know how many times I looked at my cell phone thinking he would just text me again and say he misses me. But then another part of me feels like I really don't ever want to hear from him again because I am really mad at him. And then another part of me wants to text him back telling him what I think of him. But of course I won't do that, because I am not stooping to his level. I am just going to live my life and let the chips fall where they may. I know he isn't the only guy out there. There are more to choose from. I just need to get busy and get my mind off of him. It would have been harder if we were in a serious relationship. I remember when I was in a serious relationship and my ex broke up with me (we dated for 2 years.) He was even worse than this guy. He just stopped talking to me all together. To this day, I have no clue what happened. Though I do suspect he was cheating on me. Now how could someone that you dated for 2 years do that to you. Just ignore you. I finally called him at work and asked him what was going on. I felt I needed an explanation since we were exclusively dating for 2 years. He just shrugged it off and never gave me a straightforward answer. What a coward. At least this guy texted me, but he could have called me and been a man about it. Oh well. On to bigger and better things.


Thanks again and take care,


Greta