I Called My Ex BF

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Registered: 08-29-2003
I Called My Ex BF
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Mon, 08-16-2004 - 4:00pm
Hi Everyone. It's been a long time since I posted on this board.

I broke up with my Ex about 5 months ago because he wasn't spending any time with me, was not calling me on a regular basis, nor was he returning my calls in a timely manner (i.e. I wouldn't hear from him until 1 week later sometimes). We worked different work schedules and we still do (i.e. he works 2nd shift and I work first shift), which did not help the situation.

Anyway, the Ex never wanted to break up and he still wanted to date me. In fact, we tried to reconcile weeks after the breakup and we even went as far as cuddling and spooning again. However, he essentially *vanished* and never confirmed our date back in April (we made plans to meet on a Saturday night but he never called back to confirm nor did he answer his home phone and cell phone when I called that night).

I tried to *move on* and simply forget about him by dating other people but I just could not *shake* him. I think I was more hurt/perplexed about his attempted reconcile attempt more than anything else . . . . .

So I called him about 3 weeks ago. Surprisingly, he was elated to hear from me! He called me by my old pet name and everything! It was as if he was waiting for me to call. I asked him if he was dating anyone and he said no, he was not. I couldn't believe it, especially since he updated his yahoo profile in mid-May! Anyway, we had a very nice conversation and towards the end, we agreed to meet sometime on the weekend for drinks. This conversation took place on a Sunday. I also asked him if he was upset with me (in an effort to find out what happened to him and the reasons why he never called me back) and he said he was not upset with me.

Two days later (Tues), I sent him an yahoo IM to say *hi* and that I was thinking of him. He responded right back and we chatted for a long time. He asked me how I was doing and I told him I was tired. He replied *Aw poor baby - did you go to bed late?* I said no it's just that I started my new exercise routine (I lost 6 pounds in the first week). He asked whether I was trying to loose weight because he did not want me to loose weight in my butt. I so no, not really but that I am soar and that I need a bubble bath (I'm big into bubble baths) and a nice massage. He then invited me over to his house and pushed the date up from the weekend to the next night, after he gets home from work. At the end of the chat, he threw air kisses and said goodbye (as usual).

I called him the next day to confirm Wed night's meeting. Actually I called to change the date back to the weekend because he gets home from work too late (around midnight) and I didn't want to see him that late at night. Again, he called he returned my call right away. However, when I reminded him of the date, at first he forgot, then he asked me when did I want to come over to his house. I reminded him about his invite for Wednesday night but also stated that we had originally agreed to meet on the weekend. He then stated that his feet were swollen and that he needed to go to the Dr. that day. He also stated that he didn't know what was causing the swelling - possibly allergies. Now his job requires him to stand for hours at a time so I thought maybe his reason was plausable (not sure about the allergy thing). Anyway, I saw this as my opportunity to change the date back to the weekend but, instead, he kept insisting to call me back after his Dr.'s appointment because he still wanted to see me on Wed. night. We finally agreed to meet sometime on the weekend.

Well we never met on the weekend (neither one of us called the other to confirm). About a week later (last Thursday), I sent him another IM message to see if he felt better. He never responded to that IM message. Although his yahoo profile said he was offline at the time, the actual message box said he was online . . . .

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Registered: 07-02-2004
Mon, 08-16-2004 - 4:30pm
I'm not sure if you are asking for advice or not.

I would move on.

MB