I didnt want anyone else to have him!!!!

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Registered: 11-08-2006
I didnt want anyone else to have him!!!!
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Wed, 11-08-2006 - 12:53pm

OK I HAVE A CONFUSING YET MAYBE TYPICAL QUESTION TO ASK SOME OF YOU GUYS

I BEEN WITH A GUY FOR ALMOST A YEAR

THESE ARE SOME OF THE QUESTIONS I ASK MYSELF EVERYDAY I PUT A COUPLE BELOW SO YOU CAN GET A FEEL OF WHAT IM GOING THRU....

AM I ATTRACTED TO HIM ... KINDA

IS HE A NICE GUY... IN SOME WAY

ARE YOU ATTRACTED TO HIM PHYSICALLY....NO

CAN YOU KISS HIM AND LIKE IT ..... IF I MAKE MYSELF

I WAS WITH THIS GUY FOR ALMOST A YEAR AND I THINK I HELD ON TO HIM BECAUSE ID DIDNT WANT NO ONE ELSE TO HAVE HIM

I KNOW DEEP DOWN HES A GOOD GUY

BUT IN ALL HONESTY IM NOT ATTRACTED TO HIM AT ALL

I WILL NOT HOLD HIS HAND IN PUBLIC OR SHOW HIM ANYTHANG TO LET HIM KNOW THAT I CARE ABOUT HIM

I HAVE DONE ALOT OF THANGS FOR HIM AS FAR AS HELPING HIM OUT BUT I CANT STAND HIM TO TOUCH ME

ANY SEX WE HAD IT WAS PITY SEX

BUT IT SEEMS LIKE EVERYTIME WE HAVE AN ARGUMENT WITH EACH OTHER OR WE BREAK UP FOR A WEEK IM BESIDES MYSELF CRYING AND STRESSED OUT I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO

HE BROKE UP WITH ME AND NOW I HAVENT HEARD FORM HIM IN A WEEK I HAVENT BEEN CRYING THO AND ON THE OTHER HAND I THINK ITS FOR THE BEST THAT WAY HE CAN FIND SOMEONE THAT IS REALLY ATTRACTED TO HIM

AM I WRONG FOR USING HIM EMOTIONALLY BECAYUSE PHYSICALLY ITS NOT THERE AND I CANT STAND FOR HIM TO TOUCH ME BUT I MISS HIM I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO??????????????????//

PLEASE HELP IM LOOSING IT

I MISS HIM BUT I DONT WANT HIM TO TOUCH ME

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 11-08-2006 - 5:24pm
So let me get this straight are you dating this guy? Were you living with him? Were you more than friends with this guy? It sounds like you want to have him as a friend. But he likes you and wants you to be his girlfriend. Well if you are not attracted to him move on. Let him go. Be his friend if he will have you and if not find some new friends. Be honest with him. Like hey your good company but it's not going anywhere. I did that with someone and we were friends. You don't want him to find someone else? Well that is really not your decision to make. I hope this helps. But, I'm a little confused. I've got guys that like me. We hang out and they know straight up nothing more will ever happen. Dream all they want no not going to happen. They find someone else good for them.
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Registered: 09-07-2006
Wed, 11-08-2006 - 7:02pm
here's my short and sweet advice to you my dear: When you do not want your man to touch you then the signs couldn't be more clear that the relationship needs to end! Is it harsh? Yes. Is it true? Yes! For whatever reasons you stayed with him for as long as you did that is something only you can answer but calling it quits is the best thing for you and for him. It's not fair to stay in a relationship where you can't stand him to touch you . . . listen to yourself, it does sound miserable. I'm proud of you for getting out of the relationship. Now focus on YOU and find out what type of man will make your heart skip a beat and where you can't wait to rip his clothes off!!
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Registered: 11-08-2006
Wed, 11-08-2006 - 9:34pm

OMG THANG YOU FOR RESPONDING YOU HIT IT I WAS DATING HIM FOR 11 MONTHS

NO

HE DOES NOT EXCITE ME AND I FEEL SO BAD FOR FAKING THIS WHOLE THANG JUST SO WE CAN STAY CLOSE BUT ON THE OTHER HAND I MISS HIM AND DONT WANT HIM TO BE WITH ANYONE ELSE I HAVENT HAD THE GUTTS TO TELL HIM BUT HE HAS PICK UP THAT IM NOT AFFECTIONATE TOWARDS HIM AND I KNOW ITS KILLING HIM SOMETIMES I HAVE TO FORCE MYSELF TO KISS HIM I FEEL SO BAD BECAUSE IM NOT TURNED ON WE HAVENT HAD SEX SINCE JUNE HE THINKS ITS BECAUSE OF A PERSONAL PROBLEM WELL IT WAS BUT I USED THAT AS AN EXCUSE NOT TO HAVE SEX AT ALL AND I CAN SEE IT IN HIS EYES THAT HE WANTS ME TO TOUCH HIM AND HOLD HIS HAND AND I DO BECAUSE I DONT WANT TO HURT HIS FEELINGS BUT IM EMOTIONALLY TIRED AND I CANT PLAY WITH HIM NO MORE HE DUMP ME LAST THURSDAY BUT I DO MISS HIM I GUESS I KNOW WHAT KIND OF PERSON HE IS AND I DONT WANT HIM TO SHARE THAT WITH ANYONE ELSE HOW SELFISH OF ME I JUST HOPE I GET OVER IT CAUSE I AM HURT BUT I DONT KNOW WHY

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR RESPONDING

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Wed, 11-08-2006 - 9:42pm

HI THANKS FOR RESPONDING

I WENT OUT WITH HIM FOR LIKE ALMOST A YEAR

HES A VERY NICE GUY

I JUST CANT FIND THE INNER BEAST IN ME WHEN HE IS AROUND ME

BASICLY IM NOT TURNED ON THATS THE WHOLE PROBLEM HIM

I HAVE TO MAKE MYSELF BE AFFECTIONATE WITH HIM

AND OF COURSE HE HAS PICK UP ON MY ACTIONS

THATS WHY HE DUMP ME LAST WEEK AND HASNT CALLED

IF U ASK ME I DESERVE IT BUT I CANT MAKE MY BODY DO WHAT IT DONT WANT TO DO

I GUESS IM A SELFISH TWIT AND I DONT WANT NOBODY ELSE TO HAVE WHICH IS AWFUL I JUST DONT REALLY KNOW WHY IM GOING THRU THE MOTIONS RIGHT NOW CAUSE I SHOULDNT CARE BUT I DO

THANKS FOR RESPONDING