I don't know??

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Registered: 12-26-2005
I don't know??
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Fri, 12-08-2006 - 8:54pm
Ok Please tell me to calm down. I am not going to be able to sleep till Christmas. My boyfriend and I have been looking at rings for a while and there is this beautiful one online that he knows I want. Anyway he tells me today that he ordered my gift today. I was calm and was like oh really. I said so do you think I will like it. He said he wouldn't get me something I didn't like. Then a little while later he goes its not a ring if thats what you are thinking. Um why would he say that? I would never come out and ask or assume. But of course that is on my mind. Do you think he said that to throw me off. He also knows that I mentioned I wanted a digital camera but to order that online?? I just need to be told to calm down. This is why I have stayed calm about the ring stuff nothing is worse than being disappointed.
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Sat, 12-09-2006 - 8:38am

If you are thinking about getting engaged, rings might be the least of your problems. Make the decision to marry involves lots of discussions about future plans, not just one person purchasing a ring (unlike the movies, it does not happen that way).

So enjoy your digital camera, they can easily be ordered online. If you want to get married then I suggest you start having some talks with your boyfriend about it. So when he finally purchases a ring you probably will know about it.

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Registered: 12-26-2005
Sat, 12-09-2006 - 10:28am
Sorry I should have elaborated more. We have discussed our future, we are moving away together we have planned and discussed marriage. I just don't know if it will be on Christmas.
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Sat, 12-09-2006 - 12:51pm
I would not expect a ring because if you don't get it, you'll be disappointed. I think it's better to not have high expectations in this case. And that may be just the reason he told you to not expect it. If you've discussed marriage, then trust all of it will happen. If it comes as a surprise this Christmas, great. Just don't prepare for it, you know?
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Registered: 12-26-2005
Sat, 12-09-2006 - 2:50pm
You are right. I just had lunch with my girlfriend who works with him and she said that she knows what he got me and she wants me to know that it isn't a ring because she doesn't want me to get disappointed. I kind of am and I know that it will come in time I just wish I hadn't gotten all excited.
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Sat, 12-09-2006 - 2:56pm

Don't beat yourself up for getting excited! That's the beauty of love... it lets us really feel. Trust that things will happen at the right time. No need to rush it, enjoy the courting phase and soon enough you'll have a ring and be headed towards marriage. :o)

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Registered: 12-26-2005
Sat, 12-09-2006 - 3:51pm
Thanks I am very happy. I just feel like it will show that I am disappointed no matter what he gets me. Don't say anything to him right??