The "I don't know" Feeling/Response.
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The "I don't know" Feeling/Response.
| Sat, 10-01-2005 - 7:54pm |
If a person is confused about a relationship because of conflicting positive and negative feelings/thoughts, is it better for him/her to give the relationship further chance or to let go of the relationship? Which way would YOU be more inclined towards if you were in a Dilemma with "conflicting feelings/thoughts".
How should an "I don't know" (neither Yes, nor No) be dealt with, in general?

gal adri25...
Pianoguy thinks this depends upon the couple and their timeframe!
Some individuals want to know where things are headed IMMEDIATELY after date #2. Others are willing to invest a little more time in order for the relationship to possibly "blossom?"
The most important question each of us has to ask ourself is:
DO I REALLY LOVE THIS PERSON? AND DO I LOVE HIM (OR HER) ENOUGH TO INVEST THE TIME ACCORDING TO THE PACE HE (OR SHE) IS SETTING?
Now if the signals your partner give you seem 'a little too mixed'---maintain a little SPACE for awhile. This way...your 'almost S.O.' can get his (or her) head on straight in order to arrive at a decision that you're both happy with?
Good Luck!
Pianoguy
I think it depends on how long the relationship has been going on.
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<< If a person still doesn't know what kind of relationship he wants with you after you've spent several months to a year together, then he probably will never know. >>
No kidding, Jilly! I have a friend who's been with his GF for over 5 years and STILL doesn't know. They broke up recently for a few weeks, and he said he's "giving it another try." It's really pretty sad ... because he's fooling himself ... everyone else sees it ... but, as the saying goes "love is blind." I've known this friend since college (12+ years ago) so most of our friends have seen their relationship up's 'n downs ... I kinda just wanna shake him and say "after 5 years, shouldn't you KNOW by now?!" So, yah, I'd agree ... when two people are just holding on for fear of letting go ... it's time to LET GO!
Hey, Starbuck,
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