i dont know what to do...please help me
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i dont know what to do...please help me
| Tue, 11-09-2004 - 5:29pm |
hey...
i would really appreciate some feedback. ive been going out with my boyf for about a year now. we have always been long distance. I am in london england, and he was in ireland. we were always flying back and forth for two weeks to see each other. then, we spent the whole summer together. im so in love with him its unbelievable. and now, i dont know what to do. he moved up to liverpool(the north of england) about 6 weeks ago. we've been seeing each other every weekend. we are doing alrite. we know we are in a bad place right now, and are trying to work through it because we both know we have a good thing and dont just want to throw it away. about 6 weeks ago he slept with someone else. the drunken story. he told me the very next morning and was in tears on the phone begging me not to break up with him. i gave him an ultimatum, me and nobody else or other people. he had some issues and even wanted an open relationship before this point. i was very wary of it, and told him so. and then that happened and i guess i thought it was my fault that i never placed enough oundaries. the way i see it in my mind he is having a hard time coming to terms with the me that wont let him walk all over me.
im having real problems trusting him now. and i didnt think i would so much later, as i said i would give him a second chance, seeing as thats what i would have wanted if it would have been the other way round.i just get so paranoid about the smallest things. and that just leads to very big arguments where we both say things that we regret.
i love him so much. and we both know that. i dont want to break up with him. does anyone have any suggestions? would be much appreciated!!!
i would really appreciate some feedback. ive been going out with my boyf for about a year now. we have always been long distance. I am in london england, and he was in ireland. we were always flying back and forth for two weeks to see each other. then, we spent the whole summer together. im so in love with him its unbelievable. and now, i dont know what to do. he moved up to liverpool(the north of england) about 6 weeks ago. we've been seeing each other every weekend. we are doing alrite. we know we are in a bad place right now, and are trying to work through it because we both know we have a good thing and dont just want to throw it away. about 6 weeks ago he slept with someone else. the drunken story. he told me the very next morning and was in tears on the phone begging me not to break up with him. i gave him an ultimatum, me and nobody else or other people. he had some issues and even wanted an open relationship before this point. i was very wary of it, and told him so. and then that happened and i guess i thought it was my fault that i never placed enough oundaries. the way i see it in my mind he is having a hard time coming to terms with the me that wont let him walk all over me.
im having real problems trusting him now. and i didnt think i would so much later, as i said i would give him a second chance, seeing as thats what i would have wanted if it would have been the other way round.i just get so paranoid about the smallest things. and that just leads to very big arguments where we both say things that we regret.
i love him so much. and we both know that. i dont want to break up with him. does anyone have any suggestions? would be much appreciated!!!

The only thing I can tell you is that if you choose to give him another chance, then you should only do it because you feel he is RIGHT for you, in the longrun... and not because you are afraid of being without him.
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