I don't know what he wants!

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Registered: 07-01-2004
I don't know what he wants!
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Thu, 07-01-2004 - 12:30pm
Dating Donyenne,

I have been friends with this guy for almost a year now. I am very attracted to him however, we have never been intimate because he had a girlfriend from the moment I met him. As a result, our "friendship" has developed into this intense relationship at least from my end. I don't know if what we call a "friendship" is truly a "friendship". I have expressed my feelings to him and in return he constantly tells me that we are just "friends" and there is nothing more from his side of the relationship. I have asked him numerous times to leave me alone so as to get over my feelings towards him so that we can be friends. At first he did not.

He recently broke up with his girlfriend. I thought at this point that something would happen between us but it has not. He became involved with someone else. And he would tell me about this relationship until I couldn't handle it anymore and I told him. Since he is with her, he has left me alone.

I am so confused as to what he is saying cause on one hand he says we are "friends" then we have these crazy conversations about why we couldn't have sex and how it would/could ruin our friendship. Sometimes, I think that I am going crazy. And on the other hand, I think that I have fallen in love with this guy. He is one of the few men that I truly get along with on all levels and it is painful for me to see him with other women. Sometimes I think that he is not interested in me romantically but at the same time doesn't want to lose me, as odd as that may sound.

Please help!

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Sun, 07-04-2004 - 2:52pm
Hello livingnnyc!
Welcome to Ask the Dating Doyenne!!

Although I am not the Dating Doyenne I will try to give you my perspective...