I Don't Like You Vibes?

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Registered: 10-29-2005
I Don't Like You Vibes?
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Sat, 10-29-2005 - 11:42pm

I started online dating over the summer and since then I've been out on about 15 FIRST dates. Out of those 15 first dates only a couple times have I been asked out again. I've heard that online dating is a numbers game so I thought maybe that was my problem but the same thing happened when my friend fixed me up on a date and when I met a guy on my own and we exchanged numbers.

When I told this to a friend and told her I was confused she said that maybe I was putting out some weird vibe that my dates were picking up. Like, maybe I was sending out verbal or nonverbal "I don't really like you" vibes. I have no idea what I could be doing because it seems like both my date and myself are having a good time and usually there is talk of seeing each other again. Then, I go home, thinking the guy will contact me again and he never does. I'm told I'm attractive, I think I'm outgoing and relaxed, enough......I just don't get it.

Can someone please offer me some advice on this situation?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2003
Sun, 10-30-2005 - 4:04pm
I don't know. I would enlist the help of a real good grounded friend and go through exactly what happens on these dates, almost word for word. Between the two of you, you might be able to figure out whether you are making a dating error or not.