i gave him my number, will he call?

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Registered: 06-06-2006
i gave him my number, will he call?
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Sat, 10-28-2006 - 12:23pm

Hi,

I met a boy at a bar, he gave me "the look" but we were unable to talk/dance, because he was with a female friend the rest of the night. I don't think they were lovers because there was no body language that said so (e.g. no kissing, no dancing, no touching - they were just chatting). So through a friend (sorry! lame i know) i told him i thought he was hot, and then before we left i gave him my phone number and name.

So basically based on women's experiences on giving out phone numbers - i was wondering if any of u girls have ever gotten a phone call after, and around when? Just wondering if i shouldn't hold my breath.

p.s. he's really cute ;)

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Registered: 05-24-2003
Sat, 10-28-2006 - 2:08pm
Unlikely....because (1) all the moves were coming from you and men don't like that as they are the hunters (wish I would take my own advice!) and (2) usually the non-cute men are the only ones who respond as they have far fewer options. This is my experience anyway...but what do I know...maybe he'll call out of curiosity.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 10-29-2006 - 6:45am

You might, I'm sure he's flattered you said you thought he was hot and were so bold. But if he does he also might think this is just a sexual thing.


Bottom line - there's no way to predict. He might, he might not. But brave you to go after what you want

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Registered: 06-06-2006
Sun, 10-29-2006 - 10:56pm

Thank you SOOOOOOOOOOOO much for your post!

It doesn't really matter if he calls or not - plenty more fish etc. But to have someone say that it's cool for me to do that makes me feel good. Most boys are so shy and i feel that i'll never get any action unless i make a move - but my girlfriends swear on "THE RULES" - and that making a move is a violation of them. But I think I'm going to keep on taking the initiative - no harm in asking, right?

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Mon, 10-30-2006 - 6:33am

In my playbook, the aggressive girl gets the guy.

You were not aggressive enough. You failed to find out whether this man was available for dating because you didn't ask. He doesn't know why he needs to call you, you could have asked him whether he wants to meet for coffee or some other night at the bar. You could have also taken his number and then made the choice to call him at a later time.

You handed contact control over to this man, now you have no choice but to wait.

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Registered: 06-06-2006
Mon, 10-30-2006 - 7:16am

Yes I realise now it is me who has to wait - but with this case, I am ok with it.

I am a really shy girl, and doing what I did is a big step for me. Plus it was really hard to aproach this guy cause he was with a female friend the entire night (she didn't even leave for bathroom breaks!)

We'll see what happens, and if nothing does, then plenty more fish etc.

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Registered: 06-06-2006
Mon, 10-30-2006 - 9:56pm
Just wanted to let people know he DID call - a perfect 48 hours later :) So I'm uber excited, we have a date on Friday!
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Registered: 11-21-2005
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 7:20am
If he's interested he'll call.
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Registered: 11-21-2005
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 7:23am

Oh wow!

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 11-05-2006 - 8:14pm
Perhaps he will but good chance he won't. I agree though - it's hard sometimes but try to let the guy pursue in the beginning
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Registered: 06-13-2006
Sun, 11-19-2006 - 5:32pm
The way you played this out is exactly how I handled the same situation last night with a guy I wanted to talk to but was too shy to approach. I understand why you did it because you figured that was the most aggressive appproach you could muster (with your shyness) to not kick yourself in the butt later when you left and didn't try ANYTHING. The only difference in my situation is that me and this guy have seen each other out all year, silently flirting with each other (while often with other dates/friends) so I had more experiences to draw from to hopefully determine interest. Last night, he left the female friend he was standing with, came up next to me, and gave me a huge smile, which I couldnt even respond to due to my shyness. So, I had a friend do the saem thing you did and gave him my number (he seemed really happy about it and told my friend he wanted to talk to me and asked where I went (but silly shy me already bolted out of the bar). If I had been a little less shy (remained in the building lol), I would have already talked to him when he was eager to talk to me. (Now, I must wait in agony to see if he calls!)

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