i gave him space by taking a break

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Registered: 08-23-2006
i gave him space by taking a break
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Thu, 02-01-2007 - 8:24am

we've been together 3 months - so happy & strong.in love,almost living together. but the past 3 weeks i felt that something is worrying him, that lots of things have changed in his life past months (he finally got a stable job, etc.)and that he needs some space...lots of reasons for that but i guess the main one is that he needs to realise whether he is ready for a relationship with me, a new one to him after being 4yrs (2 of them unhappy and full of fights) with another girl

i left on sunday, he cried.... on tuesday he tried to contact me - said he feels bad for doing it to me. but i need to be sure again that he loves me, that he needs me... i also had a painful break up last year but now im sure that im in love with my bf and that i need him

i dont know how to fill in this emptyness, created by our break. dont know how to continue to keep off from calling him, to tell him that i miss him hell...

im afraid that he will take long time before he decides and im VERY afraid that he will decide to stay away from me and be single.....

i need ur advice and ur words of reassurance

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Registered: 08-23-2006
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 6:14pm
i'm sorry i didnt understand - what is a good plan? to drop it or call him?
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Registered: 02-09-2006
Tue, 03-20-2007 - 10:07am
If I were you I would assume that everyone that you date is all ready NOT your soulmate and are 'frogs' until they prove to you that they are otherwise....that way, you are not disappointed....in the end...
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Registered: 08-23-2006
Tue, 03-20-2007 - 10:35am

thats exactly what i told myself this morning! :) thanks for confirming that the approach is the right one

i didnt call him at the end. and i dont think i will. it was just a moment of weakness that passed thank god. and i hope it will not return. my friends suggest i start dating someone else immediately (funny, they already spotted couple of guys "for me") but i refuse. i dont feel im ready. so for now i do all just for myself, trying to regain lost security and indifference; in the meantime i guess the best thing to do is to stop myself before i start thinking about him and this story. and to put a ban on pronouncing his name.

thanks a lot for being there

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Registered: 02-09-2006
Tue, 03-20-2007 - 10:38am

Good Luck....AND you WILL find HIM...I predict soon...just a feeling...just keep smiling...an looking pretty...having fun....you know yourself best...

Here's to sending 'good vibes' your way...!

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Registered: 08-23-2006
Tue, 03-20-2007 - 11:29am
:) thank u!! i So hope that i will. u r a sweetheart - thank u so much for ur support

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