I get dumped and he calls first
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I get dumped and he calls first
| Tue, 06-08-2004 - 11:30pm |
I don't know what to think. My ex who I cared for very much dumped me and then called me two days later asking how I was doing. He then tells me that HE is not doing so good. I then said we'll both get over it and asked him not to call me, I would talk to him when I was ready. The funny thing is that now I'm wondering what is going on. I don't understand why he would break up with me and then call me to check up on me. That just hurt so much more. What am I supposed to do?

I honestly think that he called because HE was lonely. If you allow it, I think he would just be using you...meaning have all the benefits of a committed relationship without making a committment. All break-ups falter before actually breaking off. I think that's what was happening when he called...
You are so brave to have told him not to call.
I think even though it might hurt a lot now, you are better off by putting it completely off.
Good Luck!
You did exactly the right thing for yourself even though it may have been tough. Kudos to you! By drawing your own line, you're reclaiming your control over your feeling and space, and that's what you need! Please treat yourself kindly and allow yourself to feel whatever you want to feel without putting a label on it. Focus on something and stick with it, even something simple like starting a journal (that's what I did). It'll take a while but I think you'll find yourself moving on when you turn around (like reading back on the journal) and look at how far you've come. :)
Best wishes,
Daikon