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I have a crush
| Sun, 06-18-2006 - 6:11am |
Well i have a crush on this bartender at this club that I always go to.My question is how do I get over this crush or how long does one normally lasts?I really REALLY like him but he told me recently that he and his ex have been talking and they might get back together so he really doesn't want to start anything with someone else..which makes perfect sense BUT I still find myself talking to him.This past Friday I asked him if we could spend an hour after he got off of work..just to talk.He said that he couldn't because he'd be getting out really late.Well I've decided to stay away from that club for 2 weeks and a few days and then go back and see if he is back together with his ex.If he's not ..do you think that I should ask him out for the next day to be more specific instead of asking him if he wants to go out sometime?He says that he still has my number from awhile back when I gave it to him so I know that he hasn't 'lost' my number which makes me feel good BUT I'm trying not to get my hopes up BUT still hoping that I get a chance with this guy.

honestgirl31...
Pianoguy suggests you "leave Fantasyland and get on with your life!"
There's nothing wrong with having a friendship with ANYBODY! But you're expecting a reaction that isn't likely to happen?
If you can walk into the bar and carry on a conversation with the man...without a hidden agenda or desire...then do it! If you're expecting more than this...find yourself another "watering hole" where the bartender is unattached.
Pianoguy
I would let it go and not ask him out again. IF things with his ex don't work out and IF he is interested in giving things a shot with you, he'll ask you. You don't need to pursue him because he already knows you're interested.
Staying away from the bar for a few weeks is a good idea. Also, try a new hobby and/or fill your social calendar. The more you have going on in your life, the less likely you are to fixate on this guy.
I totally agree with 'ioveranalyze'.
If you feel not going to the club will help you, then do so. But if you are going to be allright, then you could still hang out at the club...wish him a hello or nod at him...stay casual and get on with your time with your friends there. I think doing this will make him respect you more.
You certainly don't need to ask him out again or initiate any more talks on dating. If he is interested, he will certainly approach you.