i have feelings for another guy

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Registered: 06-10-2003
i have feelings for another guy
Sun, 03-28-2004 - 9:18pm
I don't know where to start. I'm in "like" with two guys, one whom i've been dating for about a year now, and the other whom i don't know. my boyfriend and i have been together (as friends) since high school, i've wanted him for 4 yrs, and finally when i get the chance to be with him, i still have this other guy on my mind. the other guy, i go to school with (my bf and i are at different colleges). this other guy, i've only had one class with, but enough eye contact, and enough coincidences with him to know that he has some sort of feeling for me. the problem is, he has a gf. he has been with his gf just as long as i've been with my bf. even though we are in other relationships, i'm almost positive the feeling is mutual. i don't know him to say that i really like him, but i would like to get to know him, but his gf is the jealous type, and that's just not possible for me. i truly want to be with my boyfriend, but something about the other guy just feels right. i don't know what to do, or where to start. my bf knows about all of this, and i know he's not ok with it, but he loves me and he says he'll understand if i want to date other people. i don't want to loose him, b/c when i'm with him, i feel like he's "the one", but then again i feel as though maybe the love i feel for him is more of a companionship, other than romantic. with the other guy, i'm just driven to him, i haven't any reason to want to be with him, he's fairly attractive, but he's no jude law. i guess b/c my boyfriend is the first guy i've been with, i feel like i just need some more experience, to see what else is out there before i decide that he's "the one", but i just feel guilty and confused and lost all at the same time.

i know that no one can tell me how i feel, but any advice would be helpful on anything.i know, i just sound totally confused.