I have known him for 22 years

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Registered: 11-16-2004
I have known him for 22 years
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Tue, 11-16-2004 - 5:46pm

I have been friends with my brothers buddy for 22 years. All of us as we get old become closer and closer friends. I know in my heart that I have always liked/ loved him. We all went separte ways as we got older, but we all have been there for each other through the years. I was the only one that got married. 10 years later I am divorce and living the single life. My brother friend have been dating this girl for about 6 years and he never talks about marriage. I seen and heard of so many times they have broken up. He never brings her around and we never see her. None of us say much about her, but I believe he really knows how we all feel about her.

He and I FLIRT all the time. I see it and feel it through his eyes that he knows he would be happy with me. Everyone around us can see the attraction we have for each other. Since I have known him all my life, he knows everything about me and I know everything about him. I can tell him things that I never thought I could tell someone and at the same time, he really listens to me. Like he likes what we talk about? Everytime I see him, which might be months or weeks, the guys has the biggest smile in his face and returns the hello with a huge HUG.

Recently I feel I am confronting my feelings for him. I want to tell him but I am so scared. What about our friendship of 22 years? Everyone with in friends and FAMILY say I am the one that is going to have to make the first move since he has been friends with my brother for a life time. My best friends told me she can see how we are with each other and she knows in her heart, "He is my TRUE love!"

I need help with at least the first baby step, PLEASE!

Edited 11/16/2004 7:00 pm ET ET by datinggirl




Edited 11/16/2004 7:19 pm ET ET by datinggirl
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Registered: 08-10-2003
Tue, 11-16-2004 - 9:04pm
Perhaps, this guy sees you as "his buddie's sister" and that's why he hasn't asked you out. Also, it's possible that he doesn't want to get into troble if your relationship doesn't work out. If you want to make the first move, then ask him out for a date. That way there won't be any doubts on where you yourself are headed. Tell him to go out for coffee or dinner.