I like him and i don't want to ruin this

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-13-2002
I like him and i don't want to ruin this
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Tue, 10-17-2006 - 4:59pm

Hi,
i started to talk on line with a guy last week. Then we graduated to a phone conversation that lasted over two hours. We met for lunch and bowling on the first date. I instantly liked him when i saw him, and he was very respectful. The dated ended with hug and a peck (my iniative). After that we have been talking on line, he said that he likes me, and felt good about our date. The problem is, i notice he likes to move our conversation to some sexual context and remarks, i try to move away from the subject but he keeps bringing it up, that I make him so excited, and he's trying to be good and all and he's not sure until when. Anyways, i spoke to him online again today, but i noticed the same attitude about him, you know the sexual conversation, etc. I'm confused, because i really like him, and i'm looking for a committed relationship, not a sexual rendez-vous. I feel that once i get intimate, (which has happened to me in the past), that i won't hear from him again. How do i keep this guy, and show him that i am serious about having a relationship with him, and not just sex?

Thanks to all that reply.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2003
Tue, 10-17-2006 - 5:21pm

This man is leading you into a sexually charged discussion becuase that is where his interest lies. He wants to know whether you are game or not. If you are looking to build an actual relationship with this man, you might tell him that talking about sex so early is not for you.

Sure, he might go away but you don't want just a sex rendezvous so it won't matter.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 10-19-2006 - 6:01pm
This is a huge red flag if you are wanting a committed relationship.

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