I like him, he likes me but...
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| Sun, 10-15-2006 - 10:42am |
I have a friend of about 2 years, that I had a spark with the moment I met him. We flirted, and in the course of the 2 years have ended up kissing or spending the night together (just cuddled up!) about 4 times. I've been living abroad for a while, had a long term boyfriend for the past year who I've now broken up with, my friend had a girlfriend for a while...so even though it seems we carried on liking each other all along, it just never happened to actually turn into a relationship.
Last night we were out with friends, we danced and kissed. And then I told him that I liked kissing him...but I didn't just want to do it as a once off. And we talked...basically we both adore each other, but he works really hard. All the hours in a day. I told him that I can handle that, I'm going in with open eyes...I don't mind seeing him very little, and having him come in a crawl in next to me at 2am only to get up at 6am.
But he thinks that I won't be able to handle it; that I'll end up breaking up with him, he'll get hurt; or that I'll take his focus off work. He's just starting out in his career and is really ambitious- his job often requires him to be in the office all night, and he thinks that if I'm waiting for him back at his flat, he might be tempted to work less hard.
I understand where he's coming from...but I still want to give it a go! He's an amazing guy, and dancing with him, kissing him yesterday was perfect.

He does sound like a good guy, he's being honest with you. Timing is important and right now its not right for him. His priority is on work and he doesn't want to be distracted. He doesn't want to wind up wrecking what you have or possibly might have in the future.
Well there is that...but I'd love to cosy up next to him. He's really affectionate and lovely...
I don't feel ready to have full intercourse (and probably won't before marriage) anyway, so the issue is slightly different!
So should I just wait it out? He's a great friend, and we have fun together. I'm just kinda impatient!