I hope a spider didn't ruin our r'ship!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-30-2007
I hope a spider didn't ruin our r'ship!!
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Tue, 06-19-2007 - 5:42pm
Hey all...I've been on here posting several times before about my relationship with a man I've been dating for about 2 1/2 months now. Well, things are moving along okay....same as they were....
However, I have a slight problem. To some, it may seem ridiculous, but this has really been bothering me for the last couple hours!! What happened was, he called me on his lunch break from work...we talked for about 15 minutes about how things have been going, our days, etc., and then (I was at home) I saw a huge spider in my child's room. I freaked out and screamed a little, and kept saying how freaky it was...big and black. When I saw the spider, he was asking me a question about a job I am applying for...and I kind of lost focus, so I asked him to repeat the question, as I was very flustered (My child put her hand right by the place the spider was)...well, he repeated the question and then I answered him and then I brought up the spider again (as I was still a little shaken, I HATE spiders) and said "Ahhh, I wonder who I can get to kill this spider!?" and then he VERY abruptly said, "I have to get back to work now." and I was kind of taken aback by his abruptness, so I said "okay" kind of awkwardly, and then he goes "bye" and I said "bye" and we hung up.
Now I have been thinking about this convo ever since, and hope that I didn't completely turn him off to me by my freaking out so much about the spider. I hope that he will still want to date me! We didn't even plan a date, didn't have a chance to, before he got off the phone. Now I wish that I hadn't freaked out so much about that spider!
Is there anything I can do to rectify this situation? Call/text him and explain or apoligize for behaving so irrationally? I'm sure he was probably irritated, so that's why he got off the phone...because it was so abrupt. But I'm kind of hoping in the back of my mind that he really did just have to get off the phone RIGHT then. But I doubt it. Any advice at all is appreciated! I'm sorry if this matter seems ridiculous, but I really like this guy and don't want to ruin anything we have because of a spider freak out! Thank you in advance!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-03-2007
I would text or call him and just say - Sorry I was distracted earlier but there was a huge f-ing spider in my kid's room... Honestly, do you really want to date a guy who writes you off because of that? Let's go with HELL NO!
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2006
If he can't understand that something unexpected happened that could have been dangerous at that very moment and you couldn't focus 100% on him, then he is an idiot. You can call him and state that you were very scared and wanted to make sure that you caught the spider and didn't let it escape, and that you are sure if he was in your position he would have done the same, but nonetheless, you hope he understands.